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Friday, June 19, 2026

Why Is Race Such a Big Deal?

Babies are not born racist. Nobody comes out of the womb clutching a tiny sociology textbook screaming, “Protect the suburbs!” Infants do not care about skin color, accents, or whether someone seasons their food differently. They care about milk, sleep, and occasionally ruining a fresh diaper at the exact worst moment. Humanity really peaks early.

Prejudice is taught. Sometimes directly. Sometimes indirectly. Sometimes through little comments at the dinner table. Sometimes through television, schools, neighborhoods, politics, and who gets treated like a threat versus who gets treated like “a good kid who made a mistake.” Children absorb everything around them long before they understand it.

And in America, race is one of the biggest subjects constantly floating through the air. Other than money, there may not be another topic discussed more. Race shows up in politics, entertainment, education, policing, dating, hiring, housing, sports, and even something as ridiculous as who is “supposed” to listen to certain music. Human beings really took melanin levels and turned it into a full economic and social operating system. Incredible misuse of free time.

So why is race such a big deal?

Because race has always been useful to people in power.

That sentence makes people uncomfortable because many Americans want to believe racial division is just an unfortunate misunderstanding that keeps accidentally happening every generation like a software glitch nobody can patch. But division has benefits for certain groups. It keeps people distracted from larger economic problems. It keeps working-class people fighting each other instead of questioning systems that exploit everybody. It keeps political parties energized and donations flowing. Fear and resentment are profitable industries.

Politicians know this. Media companies know this. Corporations know this.

A divided population is easier to control than a united one.

If people are angry at each other over race nonstop, they are less likely to unite over wages, healthcare, housing costs, education, or corruption. That does not mean racism is fake or exaggerated. It means real racial tension is often manipulated and amplified because it serves political and financial interests.

Race also helps establish hierarchy in the United States.

America likes to describe itself as a class-based society where success determines status. That is partially true. Money absolutely matters. Wealth opens doors, creates influence, and changes how people are treated. But race still plays a major role in how people are perceived regardless of status.

A wealthy Black person can still experience racism from someone with far less money or social standing. Former President Barack Obama is probably the clearest modern example. Here was a man who became President of the United States twice, graduated from elite schools, built a successful career, and represented the highest office in the country. Yet there were still people who viewed him as inferior simply because he was Black.

Think about how irrational that is for a second.

A person can achieve the highest level of political success imaginable and still not fully escape racial hostility. That tells you race is not just about economics. It is psychological. Historical. Cultural. Emotional. It is tied to centuries of narratives about who belongs at the top and who does not.

The uncomfortable truth is that many people inherit racial assumptions without ever examining them. They may not wear white hoods or use slurs, but they still carry unconscious beliefs about intelligence, danger, beauty, professionalism, or worthiness. These ideas get reinforced constantly through media portrayals, historical inequalities, and social environments.

Meanwhile, regular people who have far more in common than they realize stay separated by suspicion.

A struggling white family and a struggling Black family often deal with many of the same issues: rising bills, unstable jobs, healthcare costs, stress, crime, and uncertainty about the future. But race can become the wedge that prevents solidarity. Instead of recognizing shared struggles, people are encouraged to see each other as competitors or threats.

That cycle keeps repeating because it benefits too many systems.

None of this means race should never be discussed. Ignoring history does not erase it. Pretending racism disappeared because some successful minorities exist is intellectually lazy. But constantly reducing people to racial categories creates another problem: it trains society to view race as the most important thing about everyone.

At some point, people have to decide whether they want progress or permanent division.

The irony is that most ordinary people are capable of getting along far better than politics and media would have everyone believe. Most people just want stability, respect, opportunity, and safety for their families. Not exactly radical ambitions. Yet the loudest voices often profit from conflict, so conflict stays center stage.

Race remains a big deal because America never fully resolved its racial history. It adapted around it. It commercialized it. It politicized it. And in many ways, it normalized division as part of everyday life.

That is a hard thing to admit in a country that loves to market itself as the land of unity while simultaneously turning outrage into prime-time entertainment. Humanity really said, “What if we built entire social systems around superficial differences?” and then acted shocked when things became complicated.

Tuesday, June 16, 2026

The Validation Trap

This is part five of a five-part series entitled "Cell Phones, Social Media, and the Quiet Depression Affecting Women". It's based on a series of discussions I've had with multiple women including my wife, some coworkers, and random servers at restaurants. The women's ages range from 20 - 53 years old. I'd love your feedback.

The Validation Trap

Many women now unconsciously measure worth through digital attention.

Likes become emotional rewards.
Views become self-esteem markers.
Replies become proof of desirability.

When validation becomes external, emotional stability becomes fragile.

A woman can post a photo feeling beautiful, then spiral emotionally because engagement was lower than expected. Another may become dependent on online attention because it temporarily fills emotional emptiness offline.

This creates a dangerous cycle where identity slowly becomes tied to public approval.

And public approval is one of the most unstable currencies on Earth.

I hope that you've enjoyed this series. And I thank the women who contributed to this. Most of them unknowingly did which is why I didn't list any names. Some of the women had an understanding of the impacts of their cell phones while others were the unknowing victims of theirs. This all transpired over general conversation across a 3-day period. 

The answer to all of this isn’t simply throwing phones away. Cell phones are tools. Social media itself is not automatically evil. The real issue is unregulated consumption and emotional dependence.

Women deserve spaces where they can exist without constant comparison. Without endless performance. Without feeling behind in life every five minutes.

Real peace usually returns through boundaries:

  • Putting phones down before bed
  • Limiting comparison-heavy content
  • Spending more time in real conversations
  • Protecting relationships from digital interference
  • Rebuilding hobbies and identity outside social media <-- super important!
  • Learning to value reality over presentation

Because the truth is simple: A peaceful life rarely looks viral.

The happiest moments are often the ones nobody posts.

And maybe the most radical thing a woman can do today is stop letting strangers on a screen define whether her own life is enough.

I have an upcoming series of how social media impacts the lives of men as well. Be sure to follow me to be alerted of when that will drop. 

And if you missed any of the previous parts of this series then try the links below!

Part 1: Comparison Is Quietly Destroying Peace

Part 2: Doom Scrolling Is Destroying Sleep

Part 3: Relationships Are Slowly Being Eroded

Part 4: Parenting Suffers, Too

Parenting Suffers, Too

This is part four of a five-part series entitled "Cell Phones, Social Media, and the Quiet Depression Affecting Women". It's based on a series of discussions I've had with multiple women including my wife, some coworkers, and random servers at restaurants. The women's ages range from 20 - 53 years old. I'd love your feedback.

Parenting Suffers, Too

Children notice distraction long before adults admit it.

Many mothers are physically present but mentally trapped inside their phones. Some are exhausted from late-night scrolling and enter the day emotionally depleted before parenting even begins.

Kids compete with notifications now.

A child trying to tell a story interrupts a scrolling session.
A family moment gets shortened because someone wants to check social media.
Attention spans weaken for both parents and children.

And there’s another issue people avoid discussing: children absorb emotional energy. If a mother constantly feels insecure, anxious, resentful, lonely, or emotionally overstimulated because of social media consumption, that atmosphere eventually touches the household.

Children don’t need perfect mothers. They need emotionally available ones.

Part 1: Comparison Is Quietly Destroying Peace

Part 2: Doom Scrolling Is Destroying Sleep

Part 3: Relationships Are Slowly Being Eroded

Part 5: The Validation Trap

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