Thursday, November 13, 2014

Once A Momma's Boy, Always A Momma's Boy?

Ladies, he appears to be the perfect gentleman. He opens doors. He pulls out chairs. He even respects you enough to let you order first at dinner. Everything is perfect until... the phone rings... he answers it and his face lights up... Before you even have a chance to ponder if he's cheating or not, you hear him say, "Hi, Mom!"

It doesn't sound like it should be anything bad.  But, your man is a momma's boy.  When his mom calls then she becomes Priority One and you temporarily get kicked to the curb.  Maybe his mom was a single parent and her son feels like he owes her everything.  Or maybe he just appreciates what his mom has done for him.  Regardless of the reason, he's always putting his mom first and extending his undying loyalty to her.

What is it like being a "side chick" to his mother?  Because that's what your relationship becomes whenever she's in the picture.  This has to be frustrating as a woman when a man can't seem to "get off the teat."  For the most part, a woman and man can still function as a couple despite him loving his mom a bit more than what his lady may prefer.  However, will he ever get over mom and make his lady his #1?

Can a man grow out of being a momma's boy?  

Monday, November 10, 2014

Get Your @Blissification Here!

Veronica Cuyugan, Life Coach
I interviewed a life coach a few months ago and I truly enjoyed speaking with her.  Her name is Veronica Cuyugan and she resides in Florida, but don't think that you have to be a Floridian to benefit from her services!

After getting to know her before and after the interview, I took Veronica up on her offer for a couple of free coaching sessions.  I wanted to see if a life coach was something that even a private guy like me could benefit from.  Would I open up to her to get assistance with things I wanted to see changed in my life?  Would she be able to do anything with the information that I was giving her to get me in the right direction?

The answer to both is "yes."  I was very amazed at how comfortable I felt speaking to Veronica during my first session on the phone.  Within a matter of 10-15 minutes, I was revealing things to her that I didn't feel comfortable discussing with other people.  The main focus of what I wanted to change was my weight.

Immediately, Veronica began asking questions trying to ascertain where my weaknesses may lie.  Although she asked me a lot of questions, they came in the form of a general conversation.  So, I didn't really feel like I was being interviewed.  I felt like I was talking to a friend who was trying to help me reach my goal.

By the time the session was over, not only did I feel better talking about where I've failed in my weight loss venture, but she gave me plenty of suggestions on new things that I could try to assist with exercising.  Since the two coaching sessions (last one in September), I've lost 12 lbs.

Veronica helped me to not only prioritize and organize, but she provided additional information of things I'd not yet considered.  Weight loss is her specialty though since she's a certified nutritionist, so that helped my cause for sure.

I would recommend those looking to kickstart a goal in their life to give Veronica a try.  She'll only take you on as a client if she has time, so don't worry about her being over-booked and you feeling neglected.  If she has too much on her plate then she'll tell you.  But, if you're fortunate enough to be one of her clients then whatever your goal may be, she will study it and prevent you with options to successfully reach your goal(s).

You can find Veronica at any of the following spots:

Facebook: The Blissification Company
Twitter: @Blissification

Saturday, November 8, 2014

"Thick" or "Fat"? #BodyTypes

There's always been a debate every since the justification for extra pounds was created.  Back in the day you were either skinny, average, or fat.  Fast forward to 2014 and there are all kinds of way to categorize body types, but the one that seems to be the most misinterpreted is "thick."

Being "thick" falls in between being average and being fat.  It's a word that started in the African-American communities to justify the curviness of the average black woman.  Black people didn't like being categorized by white Americans' standard so "thick" was created.  After all, we black men tend like a little more meat on the bone than white guys.  However, I do think that things are changing and Kim Kardashian and Jennifer Lopez are the reasons why.  This lovely honey on the right here would have been considered "fat" by most people's standards back in the early-to-mid 90's, but today she's "thick" or "curvy."

But, where do you draw the line?  Where does "thick" become "fat"?

Like beauty, size is a matter of interpretation.  There is no universal standard.  It's all about what you prefer.  I prefer curves, so although the actual weight doesn't matter to me, I do pay attention to what's proportionate.  And I think that's the standard that a lot more people are following today.  Is there some resemblance to an hourglass shape?

You can find 100 guys and ask them to take a look at the photo to the right and it may result in 50 each saying "thick" or "fat" depending on their preference.  There's someone for everyone, so in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter.

However, I'll give you my definition of what makes someone "thick" and what makes them "fat."  Well, I can't say that it's my definition since I found the photo on the web, but I'll just say that I agree with it.  The photo below appears to be an accurate depiction of what I consider the difference between the two categorization of sizes.

The person on the left would fall into the "fat" category because a lot of her weight is above the waist line.  The "thick" lady gets that label because her weight is carried in her hips and thighs which to me is an attractive quality.

I'll post a few more photos below and you can comment and let me know which ones you consider "thick" and which ones you consider "fat."  At the end of the day, it doesn't matter.  If you're a woman and you feel comfortable and healthy, then do you.  If you're a guy then go for whatever floats your boat.  There's no wrong answer here.

Comment according to letters.  This is Person "A."



You may recognize person D.


Anyone of these in F considered fat?

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