Don't Blame Kids. It's the Parents' Fault.

If you're the sensitive, can't-read-anything-that-hits-close-to-home type of person, then "x" out of this page now.

A lot of today's parents are lazy. Just as lazy as they want to be. They do everything except raise their kids in a proper fashion. So many times, it's so easy to blame the kids when we see some of them acting out in public.

My take on it: don't blame kids. It's the parents' fault.

Now, for the people who know me or have read my bio, they're saying to themselves, "Self, Quincy doesn't have any kids. Who is he to tell me that I'm not a fit parent?"

Well, there are plenty of male doctors who have delivered babies successfully without ever being pregnant. That goes to show that you don't have to do in order to know. All it takes is paying attention. And I'm not expert, but I'm no dummy either.

If you want to know if you qualify as a lazy parent, then peep the list below:


1. If your kid(s)can't ride in your vehicle, during a local trip, without you turning on a DVD on the rear seat TV, then you're a lazy parent. If you can't converse with your kid(s) while travelling locally around town, then you shouldn't have had them. I will almost go as far to say that a TV isn't ever needed in a vehicle, but I can see the usefulness in them on long vacations. Riding in a car for kids was actually fun at one time. You counted certain color cars or screamed "bingo" for some of them (half of you may not know what I'm talking about, so Google it). There were word games to play or maybe you just took a nap or read a book. Whatever it was, it was more productive then seeing "Monsters vs. Aliens" for the 75th time. If you need a DVD to distract your child on a short trip, then you're lazy.


2. If your kids go with you to Rated: R movies, then you're a lazy parent. I knew some kids back in the day who knew all of the lines to the comedy "Friday". Why were you kids in the theater with you for a Rated: R movie? Too lazy or cheap to find someone to keep them? I didn't see my first Rated: R movie until I was 12 years old ("Purple Rain") and I had to sneak to see that. People, let your kids be kids and stopping putting them around adult situations. Some things are way too early for pre-teens to see and hear for the first time.


3. If your kid only wants to be a singer, rapper, or athlete and you encourage it, then you're a lazy parent. Too many kids want to be what they see on TV and if that is all your child aspires to be, then you're misguiding them some where. Sure, these types of dreams come true, but the odds of them doing so are slimmer than a "Cosmo" model on a crack diet. Kids should have role models that they know. How can an athlete, celeb, etc. be a role model if the only thing you know about them is from what is released in the media in the form of movies, TV, print and web? What exactly can someone who doesn't know your child teach your child? Whatever it is, it's not as effective as what you could teach with a hands-on approach.

Being a good parent means spending time with your kid(s). Sit down with them and watch TV every now and then to not just know what they're watching, but explain anything complicated. The one thing that helped me as a child was the fact that my father watched everything with me. From cartoons to Westerns, we spent a lot of time together while I was young and I really think that it helped me. There were other things he could have been doing, but he chose to spend time with me.

Society keeps us busy today. Some parents have multiple jobs or some are single parents. Finding the time isn't always easy. And even when you do have time, sometimes you just want to relax. Sure, you may wish you had a break now every once and a while, but be patient and put the child first. It will definitely pay off in the long run. After they're grown, you'll have the rest of your life to enjoy and a child who will make you proud.

No one said that raising a child was easy. Most people really try their best and I have the utmost of respect for them. But, for those who don't try? Meh....

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Destined to Cheat?

"Ho". Dog. Man. Are we one in the same? Ladies, do you think that a majority of men are just destined to cheat?

I honestly think that some women think that men are natural-born cheaters. Some mothers raise their daughters to believe that "men just cheat". Because of that, some women not only expect it, some accept it.

We all know a woman who has given her man a second, third or fourth chance after cheating. "Well, it's just a man's nature to cheat."

Garbage. I don't agree. Men don't "naturally cheat". Men who cheat do so because they can. They cheat because they know if the woman they're cheating on doesn't take them back, then the woman they're cheating with will take them in. If women want to stop men from cheating, then stop allowing us to do so. Raise your standards and we'll be forced to raise ours.

I wish there was a way to poll every involved guy in the country to see how many would cheat if they knew that they wouldn't get caught. You'd be surprised at the number of men who would not do it. Plenty of guys are happy with what they have at home.



But, let's flip the script. Women not only cheat on men, but they are better at cheating, too. Men aren't planners and normally, we forget our lies as soon as we tell them! And even if a person is good at lying, there are ways to "lie detect" them. When most people lie, they include too many details that are difficult to remember. After a person tells you their story on why they stayed out until 4 AM, all you have to do is listen carefully and take mental notes. After they're done, just ask them to repeat the story... backwards.

Most people can recite a story backwards if it truly happened.

A member of my BlogFrog Community named Adrienne said that, "monogamy is a learned trait". I agree with that statement. Some animals in the world instinctively only mate with one for life, but we people just don't think one is enough some times. Then again, some animals mate and the male ends up a meal if he isn't fast enough to get away. I'm glad it's not like that with humans because I'm sure most men would rather be a virgin than a meal.



But, the bottom line is: men are not destined to cheat. It's not "in our nature" any more it's in a woman's. No woman can "drive you" to cheat. No man can accidentally slip and fall into "some". No man can drink until they're no longer obligated to be faithful.

It doesn't work like that. Either you're a crappy guy or you're not. Either you have respect for your woman or you don't. Either you're man enough to break it off with her before moving on or you're a coward.

Either way, cheating is a decision that you consciously make and no excuse you can conjure will change that fact.

If you're not getting what you need at home, then tell her and leave peacefully and respectfully. Don't go elsewhere on the sly. You can't have your cake and eat it, too. No man on record has died from lack of getting some action. If anything, he's died from trying to get some as indicated in the photos below.



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Not Sold in A Dark Alley

Okay, I'm walking into a gas station (like most of my blogs start) and what do I see in the window? An ad for something that makes you lazy? Really? LOL! They now sell a snack that helps you relax. Introducing, Lazy Cakes! Brownies that provides a cure for your sweet tooth and then takes you to Dreamland.

I'm guessing it's one ingredient away from hash brownies, but I haven't read the label on one yet. I did have a co-worker that said it contains a chemical that's used in children's ADHD medicine. Personally, I don't want my snacks to contain drugs, if that's the case, but to each their own.

And to the other extreme, we have Red Bull. A drink that's been around for a while now and can give you "artificial" energy. It's designed for those who think coffee drinking is for old people. Coffee has been the morning drink of choice for centuries, but marketing geniuses found a way to make a morning drink that appeals to a younger audience. So, Red Bull was invented and is now a youthful injection of get-up-and-go.

In fact, Red Bull is now so mainstream that it has even made it's way into nightclubs and bars. There are a number of drinks that can be mixed with Red Bull a la the "Vod-Bomb" or "DVR" (double Vodka and Red Bull).



Alcohol = depressant. Red Bull = stimulant. What does the drink do? Even you out? Actually, it does the opposite. Known side effects from mixing energy drinks with alcohol are: cardiovascular risk, impaired judgment, shortness of breath, dizziness, disorientation and rapid heart beat.

Okay, be honest, you laughed at the "impaired judgement," didn't you? That's the side effect of alcohol without energy drinks. LOL!

But, seriously, I guess the point I'm trying to make is: how sad is it that we have to manufacture energy and/or relaxation?

If you want energy or to stay awake, you go to Starbucks for a cup, quench a 5 Hour Energy or slam a Red Bull.

If you want to rest, you take Ambien, Lunesta, or now, chomp on a Lazy Cake.

Just because it's not sold in a dark alley doesn't mean you can't develop an addiction, people.

If you can't start your day without an artificial stimulant, then what's wrong?

If you can't get to sleep at night without a depressant, then what's wrong?

Our country had the hugest debate over healthcare recently. The insurance companies are making money left-and-right, but are concerned about having to pay out more to risky people.



I've never sided with health insurance companies on anything before, but for once, I can kind of see why they're concerned. Who would want to insure someone who has to have a stimulant to function every morning and a depressant just to go to sleep every evening?

No one wants to insure an addict.