Saturday, October 15, 2011

TQ Presents... @KnotChocolate

I generally try to put out three blog posts per week, but from time-to-time, I get caught up with other things: The Mrs., work, football, etc. This time, a recent knee sprain is the reason I can't sit in front of the laptop long enough to come up with something.

So, I figured, why not solicit some of my favorite bloggers to take up the slack for me. Yeah, that's right, I can facilitate my blogging duties to others! How lazy wonderful is that?

So, I've asked Tiffany to "pretty up" my site with her insightful style of blogging! Well, I'm going to let her do her thing. After you read this and enjoy her work, then cruise on over to The Chocolate Knot and subscribe to her blog. It's good stuff. It wouldn't be on my page if it weren't. Take it away, Tiffany.
"A Little Thanks Goes A Long Way"
Tiffany of The Chocolate Knot

I’ve been following Q’s blog for the better part of a year now. Any time I need the refreshing truth, paired with a gut-busting laugh, this is exactly where I come.

Back in August, he was guest on a show entitled “Man Month” with a host from LookingforMySpouse.com. The conversation drifted to how women don’t always appreciate the men in their lives.

Q provided a relatable example about a woman who does all the housework by herself. One day, her man comes home and decides to lend a helping hand by washing the dishes. But is she pleased with his unprompted deed? No. Instead, she berates him for leaving the clean dishes on the drying rack instead of putting them away like she always does. That’s what we women might call a “half-assed” job.

Q’s example spoke volumes to me because sometimes, and regrettably so, I am that woman.

I’ve gotten on my husband’s case about helping me with the groceries, but putting all the snacks and canned goods in the wrong place. I even chewed him out once for taking the time to wash my car when the weather forecast called for rain that day. That was two years ago. He hasn’t washed my car since.

The point is, I think we as women need to learn to appreciate and acknowledge the little things that our men do for us. Sure, they may not do it the way we would. But the fact that they do something sometimes is much better than when they do nothing, ever.

So thank him every now and then., whether it’s verbally... or in “other” ways. Let him know how much you appreciate it when he does... whatever it is that he does. I promise, little by little, he’ll start to do more.

"Even if he doesn’t perform those duties to my liking?"

YES!

Because when you continuously point out what he does wrong or “half-assed”, it won’t be long before he throws in the towel and decides to sit his whole ass on the couch and do nothing at all.

In the words of our dear friend Q, “Once you’ve crushed a man’s ego, you’ve lost him.”

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4 comments:

  1. very very true.
    Great guest post :)

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  2. Love this post! As a man, I can't agree with this more.

    Will I do it your way. Sometimes, but I have my own way of doing things. Even if I didn't completely finish the job to your standards, I just saved you x amount of time, because I care and want to make a difference.

    Maybe 'good enough' should be good enough now and then? A half-assed job in the bedroom is ONE thing, but a half-assed job in helping you and going out of our way should be appreciated.

    Awesome post.

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  3. @ Mynx - Hey there!

    @ LiI - Amen, brotha. Tiffany is on-point with every word of this post and so is your comment. We're never going to do things the way our women do it, but as long as it gets done, who cares?

    Be sure to check out Tiffany on Twitter and Like her FB Fan Page for more of her insightful blogging.

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  4. Thanks for having me Q! And I love LII's perspective! I promise to do better lol!

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