Since when did "I get what I want or else" become the standard for relationships/friendships?
Reality TV is the epitome of what not to do in a relationship or marriage. The reality shows that are centered around family basically show one spouse trying to one-up the other. It's all about leverage. One person is constantly trying to have his or her way without any regards to the other person's feelings. It's the most pathetic way for any couple to live.
Sadly, our kids are being brought up in this environment and yes, they will be worse. Why? Because it's all they know in regards to how relationships work (unless their parents teach them otherwise). People around 30 years old and up grew up with shows like The Cosby Show or Family Ties. They know what a normal family looks like.
People between 20-30 grew up on Martin, Living Single, Seinfeld and other shows that promoted shacking or fast-moving relationships. You didn't see too many marriages in the 90's in regards to popular sitcoms.
People under 20 watched The Simple Life, Jersey Shore, Real Housewives of (Insert City Here), Love & Hip-Hop, etc. They've seen nothing but dysfunction in regards to relationships and family structure. They see constant examples of people disrespecting their mate, family, friends and even themselves. They think that if someone isn't doing what they want them to do, then it's okay to do things to hurt them emotionally, verbally and in some cases physically.
That treatment has now become the standard for a lot of people. If someone says something to hurt their mate's feelings, then there are no apologies. There is no understanding. Just a "sucks to be you" attitude is all you'll get from the offender. Because if you don't agree with them then you're their enemy. It's personal. You're against them. "How dare you not see my point of view although I don't care about yours!"
When it comes to friendship, if you find yourself not caring what someone thinks of you, then something is wrong. I'm not saying that a person's opinion of you defines who you are, but I am saying that something is fundamentally wrong with someone who is okay with having enemies.
How many of these ignorant memes have you seen on IG:
|"Trust gets you killed?" Uh, who are you trusting? Scarface?|
|I'm not even sure if I know what this means, but it had a ton of Likes on IG.|
I spend a lot of time chatting with people online and talking to them on radio shows and podcasts. They all ask the same questions about having friends or a significant other yet refuse to believe that everything starts with them. Whenever I ask about what they bring to the table they go into defense mode. It's always someone else's fault. SMH.
What brings about that sense of entitlement that makes a person think they're always right?