From generation to generation, one constant thing in the U.S. is that a lot of guys will want to have sex with as many women as they can. That has not changed over the decades. What has changed is that the responsibility to care for any children made with these women has faded.
We've all heard stories back in the day about "Mr. Earl" having an entire family on the other side of town that "no one knew about". Mr. Earl would bring his "other kids" to his house and his wife would feed them, no questions asked. In a lot of cases (not all), he would do what he could to take care of both households.
Fast-forward to today and "Mr. Devante" does the same thing Mr. Earl did decades ago except he doesn't stop with just one household. He'll have babies in multiple households. And in a lot of cases (not all) he will not do much to take care of those kids he's created with others.
What happened? Where did the disconnect start? How did the responsibility fade over the generations?
If you know me, I place a lot of the today's societal woes at the feet of 70's babies (for the record, I was born in 1971). 70s babies spend more time these days trying to defy growing older instead of using that time to train up the young ones. We want to compete with them. Not teach them.
But it's not all on us. So much has contributed to the erosion of responsibility in the U.S. Especially in the black and brown communities. We blame women. We blame men. We blame the white man.
Regardless of who gets the blame, nothing seems to ever change for the better, so my only suggestion is simply for people to change themselves.
- If you're a guy who doesn't want a bunch of baby mamas and child support orders then wear a condom or don't have sex at all.
- If you're a woman who doesn't want the responsibility of raising a child on your own then use some form of birth control or don't have sex at all.
Mr. Earl lived during a time when one salary could pay a lot of bills. Not in Mr. Devante's world though. One salary can barely even take care of a single-person household. You'd think that would be more of a deterrent from spreading one's seed, but nope.
The person who doesn't want the responsibility of being a parent should be the one who uses the birth control. It only takes one person to do it to prevent a baby.
There are too many examples of people in bad situations for us to allow this to continue to happen. Share this blog post on your timeline and at least change the minds of people you care about.