tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17261203225889045732024-03-13T10:30:39.851-05:00Thank, Q!Some things just need to be said.Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comBlogger686125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-62649463609168897322023-07-15T10:09:00.012-05:002023-07-15T10:09:00.139-05:00Thank God for Growth!<p>I started this blog over a decade ago. Every now and then, I'll go back and read some of my older posts just. Sometimes I find myself laughing at loud at a story that I barely remember today. Other times, I smack myself in the head and say, "What were you thinking?".</p><p>So many things that I believed years ago I don't believe now. And even if I do believe in them, I now have a different approach to it.</p><p>I've always tried to take an old school approach when it came to solving problems in society. I still believe that approach can work more times than not. But some of the things I said in previous posts were harsh and therefore rendered ineffective because I was trying to enforce an old school approach in a new school society. That tends to make things worse.</p><p>Thankfully, I now understand that finger-pointing is no longer the way to instill accountability. Even if it's true, it doesn't make it helpful to people to get it thrown in their faces. I've learned to take a different approach to things. As much as I hate sugar-coating the truth, it's simply something we have to do in today's fragile society. And I can't take back anything I posted years ago, but I can atone for them with a changed approach.</p><p>It's amazing how a person's mindset can change simply by continuing to live. Of course, it takes an open mind, but it can be done if people allow it to happen. I'm glad that it happened to me. 13 years later this blog still exists and it continues to show the progress I've made as an individual. </p><p>Thank God for growth and Happy 13th birthday to my blog. I have a teen-ager now.</p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-32339533813998803672023-06-22T11:16:00.004-05:002023-06-22T14:42:02.115-05:00Guys Haven't Changed<p>From generation to generation, one constant thing in the U.S. is that a lot of guys will want to have sex with as many women as they can. That has not changed over the decades. What <i>has </i>changed is that the responsibility to care for any children made with these women has faded. </p><p>We've all heard stories back in the day about "Mr. Earl" having an entire family on the other side of town that "no one knew about". Mr. Earl would bring his "other kids" to his house and his wife would feed them, no questions asked. In a lot of cases (not all), he would do what he could to take care of both households. </p><p>Fast-forward to today and "Mr. Devante" does the same thing Mr. Earl did decades ago except he doesn't stop with just one household. He'll have babies in multiple households. And in a lot of cases (not all) he will not do much to take care of those kids he's created with others. </p><p>What happened? Where did the disconnect start? How did the responsibility fade over the generations?</p><p>If you know me, I place a lot of the today's societal woes at the feet of 70's babies (for the record, I was born in 1971). 70s babies spend more time these days trying to defy growing older instead of using that time to train up the young ones. We want to compete with them. Not teach them.</p><p>But it's not all on us. So much has contributed to the erosion of responsibility in the U.S. Especially in the black and brown communities. We blame women. We blame men. We blame the white man. </p><p>Regardless of who gets the blame, nothing seems to ever change for the better, so my only suggestion is simply for people to change themselves.</p><p>- If you're a guy who doesn't want a bunch of baby mamas and child support orders then wear a condom or don't have sex at all.</p><p>- If you're a woman who doesn't want the responsibility of raising a child on your own then use some form of birth control or don't have sex at all.</p><p>Mr. Earl lived during a time when one salary could pay a lot of bills. Not in Mr. Devante's world though. One salary can barely even take care of a single-person household. You'd think that would be <i>more </i>of a deterrent from spreading one's seed, but nope.</p><p>The person who <i>doesn't </i>want the responsibility of being a parent should be the one who uses the birth control. It only takes one person to do it to prevent a baby.</p><p>There are too many examples of people in bad situations for us to allow this to continue to happen. Share this blog post on your timeline and at least change the minds of people you care about.</p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-55100609622299735612022-07-26T11:09:00.009-05:002022-07-26T11:30:26.305-05:00Back In My Day...<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhR68bbUusgZsjJaSurLvDbpqmZzf9DZDMmP1g_0OLKYJv0SKPer8I88AbS_djivb_yC3zUT6-eGvdQ80ZY6Z6SApiZUU0LX8qnIMVVlSXzpeUbf8Jee4todTkiGaLBlykR_s2zufSWt_NOfbFd2QmSMi6UwZmMjP66y8emey3JGrua3bf35uXrzendQw/s1080/delete.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhR68bbUusgZsjJaSurLvDbpqmZzf9DZDMmP1g_0OLKYJv0SKPer8I88AbS_djivb_yC3zUT6-eGvdQ80ZY6Z6SApiZUU0LX8qnIMVVlSXzpeUbf8Jee4todTkiGaLBlykR_s2zufSWt_NOfbFd2QmSMi6UwZmMjP66y8emey3JGrua3bf35uXrzendQw/s320/delete.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>When I was a kid, I remember when my dad started many sentences with, "Back in my day...". I also remember when I hit the point in my life when I started sentences the same way when talking to my god kids.<p></p><p>However, I feel differently about that than I once did. </p><p>Because of the lack of technology, society evolved at a snail's pace 50+ years ago. The only way to know what someone was doing in another region was via TV, radio, or word of mouth. That meant a lot of traditions and pastimes stayed intact for a lot longer back then than it does today. Thanks to the internet, a new trend can start all over the world in a matter of hours as opposed to decades.</p><p>My father's generation and the generations prior to it enjoyed fishing and hunting as kids because that was one of few recreational options they had at the time. Fast forward to my generation and we also enjoyed those things, too. Until they were replaced by computers, video games, shopping malls and music videos in the 80's. For me, sitting in front of a computer for hours was the equivalent of my dad sitting on the bank of his favorite fishing hole all day.</p><p>As we mature, we want younger people to appreciate and embrace what we once did without taking into account that they deserve a chance to enjoy <i>their </i>pastimes just like we did. We need to stop putting them down for going to establishments just to take selfies, the music they enjoy, or the fact that they can't function without a smart phone. We're always going to think that <i>our </i>generation is better just as our parents think that theirs was.</p><p>As someone from Generation X, I'll always be thankful that...</p><p></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>I got through hundreds of mall visits and 12 years of public school without fear of a mass shooting.</li><li>I attended many concerts and comedy shows without fear of a viral infection.</li><li>I got to slow dance in nightclubs.</li><li>I was able to get away with a lot of knuckleheaded things because there weren't cell phone videos.</li></ul><div>The list goes on.</div><div><br /></div><div>Going forward, whenever one of my god kids tells me about something they enjoy doing, I'll refrain from saying "back in my day..." as if to dismiss their pastimes. I'll save my stories for when I'm asked about it. After all, they deserve to have their own memories to embrace just as I have mine. And it's only a matter of time before they're <i>also </i>starting sentences with "Back in my day..."</div><p></p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-85507012087185663022022-06-22T09:29:00.003-05:002022-06-22T09:30:03.093-05:00Beneath The Water<h2 style="text-align: left;">Beneath The Water: A Psychological Thriller </h2><div>Her husband is in a coma. And she doesn’t remember the crash, the moments leading up to it, or what happened that sent them into the water. Struggling with the painful loss of her children and grappling with her husband’s comatose state, she tries to figure out her new normal. </div><div><br /></div><div>Migraines. Flashbacks. Memories of trying to save her daughters and husband. Navigating her daughter’s funeral, Roo leans on her sister, Molly. </div><div><br /></div><div>As Roo tries to figure out how to be alone in the family home, strange noises, voices and shadows reveal themselves to her. </div><div><br /></div><div>More questions bubble to the surface, are Roo's daughters haunting her? If so, why?</div><div><br /></div><div><b>See it on Amazon <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Beneath-Water-Psychological-Eve-Evans/dp/B0B455DGN2/ref=sr_1_1?crid=674ZTHVEYD9F&keywords=beneath+the+water+eve+evans&qid=1655907107&sprefix=beneath+the+water+eve+evans%2Caps%2C201&sr=8-1" target="_blank">here</a>!</b></div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZ6nhmbexNPOynsuZ0nilXJX6n-RdoQra6ivr_j7bh56V7UlGSJHhLJ09zO_8wfNXs6GInCMu7zG3GzvZEaUZ2zCZ0rIlq19zAeS8vbtecSu3x4GCHrEqwa18kxVhSmN2ymFPq6fpDeQaBqQGsbaj8RzDBkGxFtrKPhDMT1hRCXzQ7cy9s7fby_Lzxcg/s1640/Copy%20of%20Sponsorship.png" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="924" data-original-width="1640" height="360" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZ6nhmbexNPOynsuZ0nilXJX6n-RdoQra6ivr_j7bh56V7UlGSJHhLJ09zO_8wfNXs6GInCMu7zG3GzvZEaUZ2zCZ0rIlq19zAeS8vbtecSu3x4GCHrEqwa18kxVhSmN2ymFPq6fpDeQaBqQGsbaj8RzDBkGxFtrKPhDMT1hRCXzQ7cy9s7fby_Lzxcg/w640-h360/Copy%20of%20Sponsorship.png" width="640" /></a></div><br /><div><br /></div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-13414051859434965602021-08-23T11:05:00.025-05:002023-06-22T11:18:09.399-05:00You Can Pull For Sha'Carri And Criticize Her, Too<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>The one thing about social media that a lot of us absolutely hate is that it makes people think that they have to choose a side.<p></p><p>Well, guess what? You don't. </p><p>It's perfectly okay to fall in the middle on things. In fact, most of the times, that's the best place to be on most topics. In a lot of arguments, there is truth and good points being made on both sides. It's just a shame that our emotions drown all of that out and we leave so many debates without learning a single thing.</p><p>I'm a fan of Sha'Carri Richardson the track star. Despite her flamboyant hair and nails and her brash attitude, I'm good with her. I grew up on Muhammad Ali's trash-talking and got to enjoy Florence Griffith-Joyner's flashy style as well, so this is nothing new to my world. Bravado makes sporting events that much more interesting to me.</p><p>Having said all of that, I was one of the people who criticized Sha'Carri for her last place 100m finish in the 2021 Prefontaine Classic. Of course, a lot of people were upset with me because I didn't support a "black woman" who had a bad day. A lot of those people probably don't watch sports very much, so their opinions are not necessarily informed ones. It doesn't mean that they can't have opinions and that I can't learn from them, but I think that they were coming from an emotional place and not an informed one. So, allow me to lend some context to the hype that built up to Saturday's disaster for Sha'Carri:</p><p>Just about everyone who is aware of who she is knows that she was suspended from the Olympics for testing positive for marijuana. It was a very unfortunate situation, but she was dealing with so much at the time with the death of her biological mom. I think that she was just trying to cope and got caught, but I thought that she handled her interviews on the morning talk show circuits very well and I looked forward to her return to competition after the Olympics.</p><p>Once I saw the first Prefontaine Classic commercial on TV, I got excited to see that she would finally get a chance to race against members of the Jamaican team which has been dominant in sprinting events for years. Then a few hours later, I came across <a href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CSuDIDMnthb/" target="_blank">a video Sha'Carri posted</a> showing the new blonde hair and a quote that said that she's "not playing nice".</p><p>Wait. What? You're calling out the Jamaicans unprovoked? Why?</p><p>Let's put some things in perspective here: Sha'Carri's official <i>fastest </i>time ever is <i>slower </i>than the fastest times that two of the Jamaican women have posted. She essentially trash-talked women she's officially never run a faster time than. That's like a boxer who has had 5 fights calling out Floyd Mayweather who is undefeated in 50 fights. Yeah, there's a chance that you could win, but...</p><p>Again, I love trash-talking. It hypes things up and makes the event that much more attractive. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if the ratings for the Prefontaine Classic were higher than the Olympics just from Sha'Carri's presence. Everyone wanted to see what would happen. </p><p>I expected her to finish 3rd or 4th, but by no means did I <i>ever </i>think that she would finish dead-last. Sha'Carri indirectly challenged the Olympic gold, silver and bronze medal winners into a metaphoric boxing match and her last place finish was the equivalent of a boxer tripping and falling on the way into the ring and knocking themselves out. With that comes criticism, but it doesn't mean that everyone who criticizes her hates her. The two are not mutually exclusive despite what so many believe.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><b>We just expected her performance to match her bragging, that's all. </b></p><p>As someone who watches track and field regularly, I've seen great sprinters have horrible performances before. No big deal. This wasn't considered an upset in the world of track and field anyway because very few who watches the sport regularly expected Sha'Carri to win.</p><p>But a lot of her critics got fuel for their fire after hearing her interview <i>afterwards</i> and argued that it was a worse performance than her race. She was clearly upset (which was understandable) and cursed on national broadcast television. She defended her poor performance by touting her previous events and saying things like, "you know what I'm capable of".</p><p>No, not really. Not yet. Dominating in college is much different from dominating as a pro against world opponents. </p><p>None of the eight ladies who finished ahead of Sha'Carri were critical of her in their post-race interviews. In fact, the Jamaican ladies who finished 1-2-3 wouldn't even comment on her when given a chance to rub it in Sha'Carri's face. Why aren't they not getting any credit for being gracious winners?</p><p>Some people on Facebook were saying, "when's the last time you ran a 100m race?". Uh, never. But that's kind of an immature argument when you consider that most of us criticize things we've never done. How many of us have opinions on politicians, but have never run a branch of government? </p><p>Others came at me on Facebook saying that I criticized a black woman and that was foul. I'm not sure where the argument of "not supporting a black woman" comes into play when every woman in the event was a woman of color. Criticism of a braggadocious behavior knows no color. Sha'Carri can't sell wolf tickets and then be surprised when wolves show up. </p><p>It's unfortunate that this was the time she ran one of her worst races as a professional. We all have bad days and don't perform well at something, but we're fortunate that it's not usually on a national stage. However, here comes the "but"... Sha'Carri made the spotlight even brighter by putting her confidence on display for the world to see prior to the event. She did some things that could be deemed as being disrespectful to her opponents and that comes with a price if you can't back it up.</p><p>I remember when Muhammad Ali lost to Leon Spinks in the late 70's. It was a devastating and humiliating loss for him, but he bounced back. And that's what made Ali so great. He always bounced back from a defeat.</p><p>I think that Sha'Carri will, too. I fully expect her to be a medalist in the 2024 Summer Olympic games in Paris. I also expect her to be much more competitive in the next match up against Jamaican runners. She just needs to mentality get back in the game and the improvements will happen. She was the second-youngest person in the event, so her ceiling is still high.</p><p>I will continue to pull for her, but if she runs her mouth and doesn't back it up, I'll continue to criticize her for it as well. Because we all need to held accountable for what we say and do. Unfortunately, most people on social media don't understand that which makes them incapable of separating someone's actions from the fact that they personally like the person.</p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-82004317928405386912021-07-28T09:35:00.012-05:002023-06-22T11:18:28.297-05:00Simone Biles Withdraws From Olympic EventsNot that it matters, but let me first start off by offering a disclaimer: by no means do I want to sound insensitive in discussing this. <div><br /></div><div>Athletes are different these days. Well, people overall are different because the athletic world is just a microcosm of society. However, the greatest gymnast I've seen in my lifetime is not participating on the highest stage and it's disappointing.
The reason doesn't matter. <div><div><br /></div><div>Regardless if it would have been due to a physical injury or something of that nature, to not see the best at a competition not perform in a once-every-four-year event is disappointing. It's like listening to Phil Collins performing "In The Air Tonight" and your power cuts off on your sound system before the drums can kick in. All that build up with no conclusion.</div><div><br /></div><div>And I feel let down because this is all new to me in the world of sports. I'm from a generation when athletes stood out because they "found a way" to compete on the biggest stages despite the pressure or pain that came along with it. </div><div><br /></div><div>Muhammad Ali is considered the Greatest of All-Time by many boxing fans, but he lost 5 times in his career. Serena Williams is considered the GOAT of the tennis world, but she's lost in a major event championship 10 times in her career. So, they're simply not great because they won a lot. They're great because they continued to come back <i>after </i>a loss.</div><div><br /></div><div>Whatever athletes like Simone, Naomi Osaka, Kyrie Irving and others may be going through, I hope that they can work through it. How I feel is inconsequential to them, as it should be. The media is tough and social media critics are relentless. I'll <i>never </i>know the pressure they may feel just for being who they are. But I will say this: </div><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>It's okay to lose.</b></div><div><br /></div><div>We need to instill that mindset into younger people sooner rather than later. What made Ali the greatest boxer of all-time to me is not that he won a heavyweight championship. It was the fact that he lost the championship belt multiple times yet continued to fight until he won it back. His perseverance is what made him the GOAT in my opinion. The same goes for Serena.</div><div><br /></div><div>Something needs to change. We need to say "no" to participation trophies. No more celebrating someone's presence as being enough. We have to teach people how to take an "L" and be okay with it because no matter what you do in life, failure is going to rear its ugly head multiple times. You <i>will </i>lose at something. </div><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>The word "life" even starts with an "L"!</b></div><div><br /></div><div>We all go through things in life that a lot of people may not be aware of at the time. And although it sounds like I'm bashing Simone, I'm really not. I don't blame her one bit in this because I truly don't know what she's going through. Her story isn't done yet. She's still the greatest gymnast I've ever seen and I hope that she has a comeback story like an Ali or Serena. </div><div><br /></div><div>It's the system that I hate. I question the system that has been in place for at least a generation that says "not participating" is the route you take when things get hard instead of a focus on helping people cope prior to getting to that point.</div></div></div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-89702264792324289032021-07-15T07:20:00.004-05:002021-07-15T07:20:45.746-05:00The Recipe For Successful Dating<iframe frameborder="0" height="270" src="https://youtube.com/embed/VhBbJRzMPBo" width="480"></iframe><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>
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Hopefully you will learn to ask the right questions after hearing them give their two cents!Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-61500943123504375512021-06-30T20:06:00.003-05:002021-06-30T20:06:28.443-05:00Bee Strong!<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-gGbIZFeiQlE/YN0TOGar3XI/AAAAAAAAtnc/aKB5tMsErRcReDdTDDFJp20_iiJPtxRQwCLcBGAsYHQ/s1663/delete.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1663" data-original-width="1279" height="640" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-gGbIZFeiQlE/YN0TOGar3XI/AAAAAAAAtnc/aKB5tMsErRcReDdTDDFJp20_iiJPtxRQwCLcBGAsYHQ/w493-h640/delete.jpg" width="493" /></a></div>I need your help! <p></p><p>Please visit <a href="http://www.thebeeline.store" target="_blank">www.thebeeline.store</a> and help support a friend who is set for thyroid cancer surgery. </p><p>You support can go a long way towards helping her get through her upcoming recovery.</p><p>She has t-shirts, coffee mugs and more available and the proceeds will be used for support during the cancer treatment process.</p><p>Please read the picture and take a few moment to visit the store.</p><p>THANK YOU VERY MUCH!</p><p>#BeeStrong</p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-17604836772644316292021-06-14T16:14:00.004-05:002021-06-14T16:14:55.814-05:00The Double Standards of Sex<p>There are a ton of double standards in the world when it comes to men and women, but the double standards of sex seems to get people riled up the most. </p><p>When a guy is having sex with a bunch of women, he’s just "being a guy". But when women have sex with a bunch of dudes, she’s going through a "hoe phase" or a "hot girl summer". </p><p>Fair or foul? </p><p>Check out the opinions of this group of people and comment with your conclusion.</p><center>
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</center>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-49294592976505533072021-06-02T14:46:00.016-05:002021-06-02T14:59:31.921-05:00To Bonnet Or Not To Bonnet? <span></span><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-CIOr_Wk9Kyc/YLfeTGwbEZI/AAAAAAAAr1I/0jTnBkxlO0wD3j5nydO_XNtO4qAm7C1ygCLcBGAsYHQ/s480/bonnets.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="360" data-original-width="480" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-CIOr_Wk9Kyc/YLfeTGwbEZI/AAAAAAAAr1I/0jTnBkxlO0wD3j5nydO_XNtO4qAm7C1ygCLcBGAsYHQ/s320/bonnets.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>...That is the question!</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">Well, it's not a question in my mind. I flat-out hate seeing people out in public with bonnets on. Then again, I guess it doesn't bother me as much if it's late at night and I'm in the grocery store at 11 PM, but people at the airport? C'mon now.</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">I understand that things happen and sometimes women have to "run out" to the store quickly and get something. Rather than taking the time to do their hair, throw on a wig, wear a cap or something they grab the bonnet and make their way to the store. </div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">However, I'm not talking about those women. I'm talking about the women who literally travel in bonnets or wear them on a regular basis.</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">What happened to representation? What happened to trying to always look your best whenever possible?</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">And when comedian, Mo'nique, tried to advise women of how classless it looks to regularly wear bonnets in public, she gets slammed. Now, it didn't help that she was in a house robe when she shot the video, but old school generations are on some "do as I say and not as I do" stuff.</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">She talked about instilling pride and dignity back into women and got dragged for it. I honestly think that she was just trying to help and social media abused her for having an opinion on how women can improve themselves.</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">There's not a shortage of women on social media telling other ladies "know your worth" or "he ain't good enough for you" and things of that nature, but let a woman challenge other women to improve upon themselves and she will get canceled or muted. Apparently, it's a violation to give a woman constructive criticism or the hard truth these days. You'll regret it if you try.</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">Look. Wearing a bonnet doesn't make a woman a bad person. That's not what <i>anyone </i>is saying. But perception is reality, like it or not. If you choose to look as if you were too lazy to do your hair then don't get mad when people assume that you are in fact a lazy person.</div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;"><br /></div><div style="-en-clipboard: true;">If I wear a clown suit to the airport then guess what people will assume?</div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-13153738639768052282021-03-30T07:00:00.019-05:002021-03-30T07:00:00.124-05:00Relationships Are Like Chicken Sandwiches<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TkqO7_NaqJA/YF_zPChK6MI/AAAAAAAAo60/vainC2ckN8AqjoIhBLwKl5AmjsaqtExCACLcBGAsYHQ/s2048/151002_em_chickfila.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1390" data-original-width="2048" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-TkqO7_NaqJA/YF_zPChK6MI/AAAAAAAAo60/vainC2ckN8AqjoIhBLwKl5AmjsaqtExCACLcBGAsYHQ/s320/151002_em_chickfila.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>Before you say anything, no, I haven't completely lost my mind just yet. I know that the title seems a little crazy, but hopefully, I can convey my point without someone committing me to a mental institution.<p></p><p>Maybe I should have said that "relationships are like fast food restaurants that sell chicken sandwiches". Meh, that doesn't really flow off of the tongue.</p><p>Anyway, let's take Chick-fil-A. By no means is CFA what I would consider a "sexy" fast food restaurant. Their restaurants are on the conservative side with no flashy colors or logos. They don't do gimmicks in order to get your attention, but they keep a line of cars around the building in their drive-thrus. They attract their customers with consistency, great customer service, and solid food. They don't open on Sundays because they believe people should have a day off with family. I guess that makes them thoughtful as well and also shows that they don't focus on money. </p><p>Now let's take a look at Popeyes. Like CFA, they focus on chicken, but at one time they weren't really known for having a chicken sandwich like CFA. In the late summer of 2019, they released a chicken sandwich that took the country by storm. People were lining up around the block for this chicken sandwich. There were even fights over it. They'd finally achieved the attention that CFA was getting. </p><p>But, it was temporary because they still didn't focus on the customer. You didn't get the same friendly service as CFA. They would run out of food in the middle of the day due to lack of preparation. You would sometimes wait 30+ minutes to get your food. </p><p>Popeyes had figured out a way that they could <i>get </i>you, but they couldn't <i>keep </i>you. And because of that, there are no longer lines around the building to get a Popeyes chicken sandwich. Their success was short-lived.</p><p>Now McDonald's, Burger King, and even Taco Bell have joined the chicken sandwich war to try and get a piece of the action. Really Taco Bell? I won't even get into any of those places.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-g1wOuxyZ9VQ/YF_y6JVM8WI/AAAAAAAAo6s/h3_9eaOSUzolpJ-fK22lWVbbdUWgKyHQgCLcBGAsYHQ/s780/210218111359-02-taco-bell-crispy-chicken-sandwich-taco-exlarge-169.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="438" data-original-width="780" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-g1wOuxyZ9VQ/YF_y6JVM8WI/AAAAAAAAo6s/h3_9eaOSUzolpJ-fK22lWVbbdUWgKyHQgCLcBGAsYHQ/s320/210218111359-02-taco-bell-crispy-chicken-sandwich-taco-exlarge-169.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><p>Okay, so I said all of that to say: people seem to follow the same path when it comes to relationships. You have the consistent, always-friendly and reliable person who is just like Chick-fil-A. You know <i>exactly </i>what you're going to get when you deal with that person. They may not be the flashiest or the sexiest pick, but they will always come through for you and give you what you need. Because <i>you </i>are their focus. <i>You </i>are their priority.</p><p>Then you have the person like Popeyes who hits you like a ton of bricks when you first meet them. Everyone seems to want a piece of them. They look the part and sound the part at first, but then you find out over time that they're not all that. They're inconsistent. They take you for granted and seem to act like they're doing <i>you </i>a favor. And they're definitely not focused on <i>you </i>or your happiness.</p><p>Lastly, you have the people who are like McDonald's, BK, and Taco Bell. Monkey-see, monkey-do. They will do whatever they can just to be noticed although most people will leave from them with a bad taste in their mouth.</p><p>So, I guess the moral of this blog post is: be more like Chick-fil-A and less like Popeyes.</p><p>Okay, maybe I do need to be committed to a mental institution. SMH.</p><p><br /></p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-39810468466712461232021-02-01T08:10:00.001-06:002021-02-01T08:10:01.408-06:00Men Judge Your Social Media<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-KOUEhSc5FO4/YBQZrvXRUKI/AAAAAAAAnas/R-c0g1yzXOYhQCBI5eAKtAmSEjUF6_SdACLcBGAsYHQ/s592/fc951dc6a4191bb7efcf3f5816cb853c06-13-thirst-trap-kim-kardashian.rsquare.w700.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="592" data-original-width="592" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-KOUEhSc5FO4/YBQZrvXRUKI/AAAAAAAAnas/R-c0g1yzXOYhQCBI5eAKtAmSEjUF6_SdACLcBGAsYHQ/s320/fc951dc6a4191bb7efcf3f5816cb853c06-13-thirst-trap-kim-kardashian.rsquare.w700.jpg" /></a></div>Okay, so we've seen countless ladies post memes that say things like, "the memes I post on Facebook are strictly for entertainment. And if you don't believe it, then that's on you." And they expect you to ignore the thirst trap photos, drama-filled rants, and posts about them claiming that they're single. <div><br /></div><div>The truth is: men judge women by their Facebook post, regardless if ladies thinks that is fair, accurate or not, we just do. </div><div><br /></div><div>And as a man, I don't want the trouble that comes along with someone who is beefing on Facebook with people or someone who posts cryptic updates just to try to get some type of reaction or response. And don't get me started on a thirst trap photos. I mean, those same women will complain about guys in their inbox. I mean, come on now. Are you serious? If you put honey on the kitchen counter, then expect to get ants. That's just how that works. </div><div><br /></div><div>Inspirational quotes in the morning and thirst trap photos at night will definitely get you attention. But from whom? But hey, I'm not an expert. I just have an opinion. So let me share the opinion of another and get his two cents. </div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-xziuBdrWEaQ/YBQZiFN9M9I/AAAAAAAAnao/3dFKX618sGwMZVqNqhCKPmQC5k8clDBgQCLcBGAsYHQ/s2048/Jhae%2BPfenning.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="2048" height="320" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-xziuBdrWEaQ/YBQZiFN9M9I/AAAAAAAAnao/3dFKX618sGwMZVqNqhCKPmQC5k8clDBgQCLcBGAsYHQ/s320/Jhae%2BPfenning.jpg" /></a></div><br /><div>He's the host of the <b><a href="https://linktr.ee/JhaePfenning?fbclid=IwAR29u9K4WGKeCmK7iOqSNGrXHii-h1OHxbXt0llNm0zR55XMXLwmEl_6qQ8" target="_blank">Hard Parking Podcast</a></b>: society and culture first, the car stuff comes second. It's essentially a non-automotive automotive podcast. It's a dope show that I enjoy. And it can be found on <a href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjj6Y7_qsHuAhVUOs0KHUL8AOcQFjAMegQIARAC&url=https%3A%2F%2Fanchor.fm%2Fhardparkingpodcast&usg=AOvVaw0DmFaRc9ZIRBft9DrvVM0o&cshid=1611930062267814" target="_blank">Anchor</a>, <a href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwjj6Y7_qsHuAhVUOs0KHUL8AOcQFjAAegQIAxAC&url=https%3A%2F%2Fpodcasts.apple.com%2Fus%2Fpodcast%2Fhard-parking-podcast%2Fid1477527835&usg=AOvVaw3gP3MOpgw0jEnPwCZ7yb3Q&cshid=1611930062267814" target="_blank">Apple podcasts</a> or just about anywhere podcasts are found. From the Grand Canyon State of Arizona, ladies and gentlemen, Mr. <a href="https://www.instagram.com/na2nsx/" target="_blank">Jhae Pfenning</a>. </div><div><br /></div><div>Jhae, let the people know your two cents on women in our Facebook posts. </div><div><br /></div><div><i>"I don't know man, I think it's difficult in 2020. Because the landscape is so different than when I was growing up. I think now, if ever it's more acceptable, but I don't think they're gonna attract a guy who seriously wants to date him. I think about this, because because I can't even imagine life as a woman on social media. You don't have even have to look good in do to slide in your DM. I can't imagine what some of these girls are doing. Are they doing it to themselves? Yes. </i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>But I think about, I used to be a bouncer. And one of the things as a bouncer is, it's so difficult. So if a girl comes in, she's hanging out with her friends. And you're like, 'man, there's something about her, I want to know who she is, I want to know her more. She's kind of quiet sticking to herself. Sticking to her friends. She's not out there dancing or whatever, not acting a fool most of the time.' </i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>Even if they allow you to talk to them. They're not going to give you the time of day, if you ask them out, they're not going to take you serious because the stigma is, since you work at the club, and you a bouncer, you're asking every girl every night, the same thing. You're taking girls home all the time. And I can just say for me, that was never the case. I know there's some people out there telling these stories, and this happened to them. For me, that was never the case. </i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>And so if a girl is putting herself out there on social media, doing all these quotes, these inspirational quotes, these motivational quotes. 'I just need a guy', 'I don't want a guy's gonna lie to me', you know, all that kind of shit. 'Find a guy who's going to be truthful for you and make him your king', girls who do that. </i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>Then they posted these extremely sexualized photos of themselves and they know what they're doing. And then they're like, 'I need a man'. No one's gonna take him serious. Because the stigma is, you're just doing it for attention. You can't crowd-source a relationship. That's what dating apps are for. </i></div><div><i><br /></i></div><div><i>So 'no', no one's gonna take him serious. It'll be rare. The really good guy that they really want to get is not gonna take him serious."</i></div><div><br /></div><div>You heard the homie, Jhae. The guy that you want. That man? He won't take you seriously. You'll get the attention of "guys", but guys are a dime a dozen and they're in it just for a good time and that alone time. </div><div><br /></div><div>If you want a "man", then whether you like or don't like what Jhae and I are saying, you may want to pay attention to what you post on social media, because men are judging you by it. Fair or not, it's reality.</div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-78695142754120206032021-01-24T13:36:00.002-06:002023-06-22T11:19:01.069-05:00What Is "A Good Woman"?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>One of my FB friends posted something today that asked all men to describe a "good woman" and all women to describe a "good man". <div><br /></div><div>Of course, guys started talking about good sex, cooking, swag, yadda, yadda, yadda. It definitely reinforced why some guys make horrible decisions when choosing a mate. </div><div><br /></div><div>The superficial things that we may crave as men have nothing to do with her being a "good woman". Her ability to cook, clean, or do whatever domestic chores that we traditional men tend to enjoy means nothing either.</div><div><br /></div><div>A "good woman" is someone a man is proud of each time he enters the room with her. Not for what she may bring to the table in looks and style, but for what her presence does. She has an aura of royalty and regalness about her.<br /><div><br /></div><div>Here is my response to the post on Facebook on what I think a "good woman" is:</div><div><br /></div><div><i>Someone who pours her heart into everything that she does. People admire her and want to be like her. She makes people around her better in some way. Her name brings about a sense of pride and not shame in any way. She would be respected by the lowest of the low as well as the highest of the high. Being a good woman has absolutely nothing to do with a man, but everything to do with herself.</i></div></div><div><br /></div><div>In my opinion, being a "good woman" has absolutely nothing to do with what she can do for me as a man. It has everything to do with her reputation being worthy of respect. <br /></div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-74141005575076731702021-01-08T09:16:00.004-06:002021-01-08T09:20:08.186-06:00Misleading Photo Leads To Firing?<p>We jump to conclusions on everything these days. It's easy to do. We're so bombarded with negativity that we assume everything that we see is bad. Even without context. </p><p>Case in point: check out the photos below. This man was identified as being part of a violent attack on a black woman in Los Angeles. It appears that it was reported to his employer who apparently relieved him of his duties. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-xkhklArWbUA/X_hzD5Dy6jI/AAAAAAAAm98/vQF6o7GqBdECpYYQb2GGJR0UOQDkzbbKgCLcBGAsYHQ/s720/137043018_10218765303914679_1803789454778250693_n.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="469" data-original-width="720" height="260" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-xkhklArWbUA/X_hzD5Dy6jI/AAAAAAAAm98/vQF6o7GqBdECpYYQb2GGJR0UOQDkzbbKgCLcBGAsYHQ/w400-h260/137043018_10218765303914679_1803789454778250693_n.jpg" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="754" data-original-width="960" height="314" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-lZFVrMO4LtQ/X_hzW9msAmI/AAAAAAAAm-E/2kjq15UXYoESaNTnYcKqUhkRojKsvjmoQCLcBGAsYHQ/w400-h314/137043018_10218765303914679_1803789454778250693_n.jpg" width="400" /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jU41dLaObkE/X_hzhjXINuI/AAAAAAAAm-I/IuGMOhEeI54gEqaW3vqblv1EMpLjKB_BACLcBGAsYHQ/s960/137043018_10218765303914679_1803789454778250693_n.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="960" data-original-width="676" height="400" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-jU41dLaObkE/X_hzhjXINuI/AAAAAAAAm-I/IuGMOhEeI54gEqaW3vqblv1EMpLjKB_BACLcBGAsYHQ/w281-h400/137043018_10218765303914679_1803789454778250693_n.jpg" width="281" /></a></div><b>Here's what really happened: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/IfeJohari/posts/10220387589732655" target="_blank">News clip</a>.</b><div><br /></div><div>If you were able to click and view the link above then you will see that the man was actually carrying the woman to safety. She even stated in the interview that she may have been killed had he not taken her out of harm's way.</div><div><br /></div><div>Now, you can argue that this man being a part of this mob in the first place may have justified him losing his job. You may also argue that being maskless was irresponsible, too. However, we all have a right to protest. Regardless of if you disagree with him or not, he is well within his rights to be out there as long as he's not trespassing or causing harm to anyone.</div><div><br /></div><div style="text-align: center;"><b>Just because a picture says a thousand words doesn't mean that any of those words are true. </b></div><div><br /></div><div>We have to condition our minds to seek context. To not trust our lying eyes without our brain having some input. Whether it's in a situation that may have cost this man a job or even something of a more personal matter involving a loved one, always seek context first!</div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-80757595646608828822020-12-28T23:11:00.005-06:002020-12-28T23:16:58.113-06:00Teach Your Sons How To Be Men<p><span face="Roboto, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-size: 16px; font-variant-ligatures: none; letter-spacing: 0.1px; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span face="Roboto, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #202124; font-size: 16px; font-variant-ligatures: none; letter-spacing: 0.1px; white-space: pre-wrap;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-vszovpVF_zI/X-qr2vvmTBI/AAAAAAAAmyY/5enabg10NcQEtx9frLiCYjauuzymK2VMwCLcBGAsYHQ/s702/immatureguy.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="336" data-original-width="702" height="191" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-vszovpVF_zI/X-qr2vvmTBI/AAAAAAAAmyY/5enabg10NcQEtx9frLiCYjauuzymK2VMwCLcBGAsYHQ/w400-h191/immatureguy.jpg" width="400" /></a></span></div>If parents would teach their sons how to handle their responsibilities when they are young, then someone else's daughter won't have to do so when they are grown. <div><br /></div><div>Boys who are not challenged and have not accomplished anything turn into immature and irresponsible adults. They will usually shy away from anything they deem difficult from a good job to a good woman.</div><div><br /></div><div><b>Ladies, you don't have to date a man like that. And you <i>definitely</i> don't have to have a baby by one.</b> </div><div><br /></div><div>Ladies, if you are in a relationship and find yourself being a mom more than you are being his woman then something is wrong. If the same Christmas gifts you bought your dude could also make your 12-year old son happy, then doesn't that tell you something?
It doesn't mean that guys can't enjoy gaming consoles and sneakers, but if that's what he's all about then ma'am, you have a son! In just a couple of generations, we've gone from dads getting a tie, some socks, or tools for Christmas to shopping for your dude in the same stores that you shop for your son. </div><div><br /></div><div>Do you know why some guys are bad boyfriends, husbands, and dads? Because no one told them that they sucked as a person <i>before</i> they became a boyfriend, husband, or dad.
They kept getting their way and having things done for them until they grew into overgrown children. It's hard to reprogram someone who has never had to be held accountable for his actions. Parents are supposed to teach and guide along with providing shelter and entertainment.</div><div><br /></div><div>Blame the moms and dads who didn't teach their sons how to be a caring and responsible person. Don't get me wrong. You can't <i>make </i>a guy be responsible. He has to want to do that. However, you can instill some values in him when he's young that may he may adopt into his lifestyle as he grows older. </div><div><br /></div><div>How many of you parents out there, man or woman, have had conversations with your sons about the importance of doing well on the job? Regardless of the type of job. How many of you have taught your sons not to leech off of women? How many of you have taught your sons that their responsibilities come before their hobbies?
</div><div><br /></div><div>Only you know the truth to those questions. And some of you are not hitting the Like button because you know that I'm talking about you. That's okay. You don't have to like what I say as long as you consider what I'm saying. </div><div><br /></div><div>Some of you ladies are raising the same men that you despise. Running around talking about, "this is my king". Buying him $200 sneakers and the boy is 14 years old and reading on a 4th grade level. He knows the lyrics to every song by Lil Uzi, Lil Shotgun, Lil Glock or whatever "Lil" is rapping these days, but has to move his lips when reading a Dr. Seuss book. Talking about your son is going to be a "heartbreaker" with the women and then you wind up a 32-year old grandmother because you never taught him how to respect relationships. </div><div><br /></div><div>And some of you dudes are not raising your sons at all. You're not present. And when you are present, you aren't teaching him anything that can help him develop into a man. You think that playing him in Madden fulfils your duties as a dad. No, it doesn't. </div><div><br /></div><div>Why are you setting your sons up for failure? Why are you not teaching him to not just to seek book knowledge, but also knowledge of self? Why are you not teaching him how to get and keep a good job? Why are you not instilling the importance of ownership and an excellent credit score? </div><div><br /></div><div>Why are you not teaching him to establish himself as a man first and <i>then </i>find a woman. And make sure that he is capable of handling that woman. </div><div><br /></div><div>Guys, your son is a reflection of you. I don't care if he lives with his mom, a son is a reflection of his dad's teachings. If you don't make the effort to have those conversations with your son then who do you think will get the blame if he grows up to be a sorry dude?</div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-68719930545929247342020-12-08T13:10:00.008-06:002023-06-22T11:19:22.905-05:00John Lennon Shot: 40 Years Later<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div>Most of the things that I ultimately learned about John Lennon came later in life. I was too young to remember the Beatles. But I've heard tons of stories about how talented of a musician he was and it is sad that the world lost a musical genius on this particular day 40 years ago.<div><br /></div><div>I remember watching a Monday Night Football game between the Dolphins and Patriots when Howard Cosell announced during the game that Beatles singer, John Lennon, had been shot and killed. There was no internet back then, so radio and TV were your only sources for breaking news. </div><div><br /></div><div>I remember asking my dad why someone would kill somebody who was famous. I was about 9 years old at the time and I thought that <i>everyone </i>loved celebrities and would never harm one. I don't recall what his answer was to me, but I just remember going to bed that night wondering what in the world caused someone to shoot John Lennon. </div><div><div><br /></div><div>As I got older, I've learned that celebrity shootings weren't so rare after all and that the reasons for them weren't always good either. My favorite singer, Sam Cooke, was shot in 1964 in what was called a "justifiable homicide" although most think that he was murdered for being a black man with a white woman. Marvin Gaye was shot in 1984 during a family dispute. Selena in 1995 by a crazed fan. Tupac, Biggie, Roger Troutman, Jam Master Jay. The list goes on and on. </div><div><br /></div><div>Lennon's murder was probably my first introduction to the underbelly of the real world. There isn't a person on this planet that is loved by everyone. <i>Someone </i>will always have a problem with you or seek something to gain by harming you (physically or emotionally). </div><div><br /></div><div>I'm not a Beatles fan or anything. I own none of their albums. But I understand what they brought to society by way of their music and I respect their craft. It's a shame that folks have prematurely taken from us some of the most gifted people in our society. </div></div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-10454372990805669902020-11-24T16:30:00.002-06:002020-11-24T16:48:53.212-06:00There Are Still Good People Out There<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-NicWlhCsbLI/X72I0QnxWsI/AAAAAAAAmBo/l_Vly7PLBvYj92kTTq66kiUNxlsGHt1DwCLcBGAsYHQ/s350/1744_image1.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="340" data-original-width="350" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-NicWlhCsbLI/X72I0QnxWsI/AAAAAAAAmBo/l_Vly7PLBvYj92kTTq66kiUNxlsGHt1DwCLcBGAsYHQ/s320/1744_image1.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>So, back in the summer, some time in August, I ran an errand to pick up some <a href="www.Talk2Q.com" target="_blank">Talk 2 Q</a> face masks from a friend of mine. I was about five minutes from my destination when I hit a pothole and blew out my passenger side front tire. I pulled over near a church parking lot and surveyed the damage. The temperature was in the 90's on this particular day and I'm sure that the heat index was well over 100. <p></p><p>Anyway, I open my trunk and start to unload my spare tire and equipment that I need to change the flat tire.
As I'm pulling things out of the trunk, a minivan pulls up beside me. It's a white lady, maybe in her mid-to-late 50's, kind of heavyset. You know, the type of person you would envision if someone asked you to think of what a grandmother looks like. She asked me what was wrong and I told her that I had a blowout. She asked me if I had any water. I told her that I did have a bottle of water in my car. She said that it was too hot and I needed more. </p><p>She then proceed to get out of her van and go into her backseat. She emerged from the other side of the van with six bottles of water in her arms. She said that if she knew how to change a tire that she would help me, but she wanted me to at least stay hydrated in the process.
I thanked her profusely as I accepted the bottles. She got back in her van, wished me a nice day, and drove off. </p><p>I resumed working on my tire and I realized that my tire iron wouldn't fit the lug nuts on the flat. So, I'm unable to remove the flat tire and put on the spare. I'm racking my brain trying to figure out why the tire iron will not fit. I then realize that without that, I'm stuck. So, I grab my cell to call my dad to get him to bring his. It will take him about 30 minutes to arrive, so I sit inside my car to turn on the A/C. </p><p>A mid-sized sedan then pulls up in front of me. A black man gets out. He's probably early 30's, wearing an undershirt or what some people refer to as a "wife beater shirt". Sounds terrible to say that out loud on the air, but you know the shirt. He has a few tattoos and has the look of a construction worker, so to speak. He asked me what was wrong and I recited my story. He told me that he had a lug wrench in my car that would fit my tire. He retrieved it from his trunk as I slowly got out of the car. </p><p>I called my dad to tell him that I didn't need him to drive all the way across town and while I was doing that, dude started changing my tire. After I got off of the phone with my dad, I tried to stop him and let him know that I could take it from here. He simply replied, "It's all good, man. I used to work at Goodyear. I can change a tire in my sleep". </p><p>Dude had the tire changed in a matter of minutes. I offered to Cashapp him some money for his troubles, but he refused. He said that he saw an opportunity to help and did so. I thanked him and he drove on. </p><p>I guess I shared all of this just to say that there are still some good people out here. Social media will make you lose faith in all of humanity because of the level of selfishness and ignorance that we see on there every day. But, I had two people, each who appeared to be from different walks of life, stop to assist me. An older white woman and a younger black man. A conservative-looking lady and an urban-looking, for lack of a better phrase, dude. </p><p>Good people come in all shape, sizes, ages, and colors. Stop letting social media and the talking heads on the news continue to divide us. There are no secrets in getting along with people. Just be decent and the rest will work itself out.</p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-24456278599597487622020-09-16T18:57:00.002-05:002020-09-16T18:57:26.678-05:00Who Is Responsible for Birth Control?<div class="separator"><div class="separator" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center;"><img border="0" data-original-height="444" data-original-width="628" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Vc_ROBlbryw/X2KbyY0eSOI/AAAAAAAAkuc/L-fDQrTin1wjGDHWy-nQdG5lZJbHOU49gCLcBGAsYHQ/s320/sonogram.jpg" width="320" /></div></div>When two people who aren't married decide to have sex, who is responsible for birth control? It sounds like a tough question, doesn't it? <div><br /></div><div>Well, it's not. Despite the fact that people have argued this question for decades is beyond me. The answer is plain and simple: the person who <i>doesn't </i>want the obligation is the one responsible for preventing it. </div><div><br /></div><div>Period.
</div><div><br /></div><div>Guys, let's say that you don't want a child brought into this world, and the reason doesn't matter. It can be because: </div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>You don't want the financial obligation. </li><li>You don't want the responsibility of being a dad. </li><li>You don't like the woman you're about to have sex with enough to raise a child with her. </li><li>Maybe you just hate kids. </li></ul>The reason doesn't matter. It's <i>your </i>responsibility to ensure that conception never happens. The sperm has to reach the egg in order to create a child. Stop the sperm and there won't be a child. You can't blame the woman if she ends up pregnant because <i>you </i>didn't protect <i>yourself</i>. It's like blaming someone for having a wet floor when the plumbing is leaking. Yeah, you could put a bucket under the leak and protect the carpet, but isn't the most reliable way to stop the leak is at the source?</div><div><br /></div><div>If a guy doesn't want a baby then he can just about guarantee that it doesn't happen by simply wrapping up. That's a lot better for everyone than just having a kid and then abandoning the child and the mother or not taking care of them adequately.
</div><div><br /></div><div>And ladies, while you're laughing at me getting on the fellas, let me talk to you all for a minute... </div><div><br /></div><div>It's <i>not </i>a man's fault if you get pregnant from unprotected sex. If you think that the pull-out method is foolproof then ma'am, <i>you're </i>the fool and the baby is proof. Please don't rely on that or trust that he will even do it.</div><div><br /></div><div>It's pretty much a given that if a woman has a child out of wedlock that <i>she's </i>going to be the primary person to care for it. And if she doesn't want to deal with factors such as:</div><div><ul style="text-align: left;"><li>Not being able to afford the child.</li><li>Not having accommodations for someone to watch the child when she's unavailable.</li><li>Not wanting to tether herself to a dude who isn't worth it. </li><li>Or maybe she, too, just hate kids.</li></ul>The reason matters not, but, it's still <i>your </i>responsibility to ensure that conception never happens. </div><div><br /></div><div>One of my favorite comedians, Tyler Craig, who tragically passed away earlier this year, use to always end his jokes with a moral, so I will end this blog post by saying, "and the moral of the story is:" It takes <i>two </i>to make a baby, but only <i>one </i>to stop it. </div><div><br /></div><div>And the person who <i>doesn't </i>want the obligation should be the one to stop it. </div><div><br /></div><div>Every time a man goes in unprotected then he's <i>obviously </i>cool with possibly having a baby. </div><div><br /></div><div>Every time a woman allows a man to have sex without some form of birth control then she's <i>obviously </i>cool with possibly having a baby as well. It doesn't take a genius to understand how pregnancy works. </div><div><br /></div><div>All of these years, men and women have been finger-pointing when the answer to this question has <i>always </i>been and <i>always </i>will be, <b>"you"</b>.</div>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com4Jackson, MS, USA32.2987573 -90.18481033.9885234638211529 -125.3410603 60.608991136178844 -55.028560299999995tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-6410127103998734152020-08-30T07:00:00.001-05:002020-08-30T07:00:01.338-05:00Why Do We Need A Blackout Day?<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-4LrhJoDMHiI/X0abX-fxfII/AAAAAAAAkEc/dMbKXxwn6dgxkwfBFYMZflxM24tLEQWngCLcBGAsYHQ/s1320/black%2Bowned%2Bbusiness.png" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="792" data-original-width="1320" height="246" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-4LrhJoDMHiI/X0abX-fxfII/AAAAAAAAkEc/dMbKXxwn6dgxkwfBFYMZflxM24tLEQWngCLcBGAsYHQ/w410-h246/black%2Bowned%2Bbusiness.png" width="410" /></a></div><br />Okay, so I talked to a friend of mine named TeAndra a while back and she brought something up in our conversation that I hadn't thought about before. Why do we have to have designated days to support black-owned business?<p></p><span><div><br /></div><div>I think back to stories from the 50's and 60's that my father shared with me years ago. He said that every weekend, black people would frequent a spot in Jackson, MS in an area now known as the Farish Street District. Farish Street was a black community and there were a lot of black shops and restaurants in that area. That area thrived from the black dollars that went into it. </div><div><br /></div><div>Fast forward to after the Civil Rights Era. No more colored water fountains. No more colored-only entrances. All of that stuff abolished. And that was the origin of the collapsing of black businesses in the Jackson area. Black people started taking their business to white establishments and ultimately stopped patronizing their own. That area of Jackson has been struggling ever since it can't seem to come close to recapturing what it once had. </div><div><br /></div><div>Now, if you fast forward to present day, we have what some people call "black out days". We use black businesses so infrequently now that we have to remind the world to take a day to patronize a black-owned business.</div><div><br /></div><div>How sad is that? Why do we not support our own. And don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that black people should not support people of other races, I'm just trying to figure out why we appear to be the only race of people who don't keep our dollars within our communities.</div><div><br /></div><div>We approach black businesses in one or two ways: 1) we want some sort of hook up or discount. And 2) we have a zero tolerance for anything that we interpret as bad customer service.</div><div><br /></div><div>C'mon, people. Let's stop being stuck on stupid. There's a reason why you've heard of different parts of major cities devoted to certain ethnic groups. You've heard of Chinatown, Little Italy, and things of that nature. Why isn't there a well-known community in every major city predominantly serviced by black-owned businesses? I ain't never heard of Blacktown. </div><div><br /></div><div>Well, that might be offensive to some, but the point I'm trying to make is: stop being on a short fuse when it come to black-owned businesses. There are a lot of professional people out here who just want to make a living like everyone else, but they can't do it because your expectations of them is unreasonable. Give them the same level of patience you give the rest of the world.</div><div><br /></div><div>We still go to fast food restaurant chains regularly and put up with bad attitudes from the moment we place our orders. We still go to big box superstores with 20 registers and only 2 of them are open and will sit in line long enough to play out all of your Candy Crush lives. But let a black-owned business be 1 minute late or forget to take the tomatoes off of your hamburger order and it's, "man, I can't stand black folks. They don't do anything right! I ain't ever coming back!"</div><div><br /></div><div>Is that how you really feel? SMH.</div></span>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-67989785351508786442020-08-26T17:26:00.002-05:002020-08-26T17:26:56.646-05:00"Nope! No racism here!"<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-s0rcWsGEgVg/X0bdeGVR7sI/AAAAAAAAkFA/H2rZIeF4K1w6h-FyUeNKHStzz40Yu6mPgCLcBGAsYHQ/s2048/delete.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1536" data-original-width="2048" height="307" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-s0rcWsGEgVg/X0bdeGVR7sI/AAAAAAAAkFA/H2rZIeF4K1w6h-FyUeNKHStzz40Yu6mPgCLcBGAsYHQ/w410-h307/delete.jpg" width="410" /></a></div>A picture says a thousand words. <p></p><p>The first step to fixing a problem is to first admit that there is one. A lot of the police departments in this country seem to not want to do that. So many of the politicians in this country seem to not want to do that. Many citizens in this country seem to not want to do that. We're just walking around with blinders on like the Netflix movie, "Bird Box".</p><p>We just keep walking around aimlessly as if nothing is going on. "Nope. No racism here!" </p><p>Now the NBA players are boycotting. I'm not sure what their endgame is, but I stand behind them exercising their right to peacefully protest. Anything that raises awareness to people of color being fed up with status quo is just fine with me.</p><p>What was the final straw that prompted this boycott? A knuckle-headed teen shot and killed two people last night because he wanted to be a cop. How telling is that? And when the cops were responding to the scene, they drove right past the 17-year old, rifle-toting white kid with his hands held up in the air. Drove right past him! Why? Because evidently he didn't appear to be a threat to them. But a 12 year old black kid named Tamir Rice was shot and killed <b>seconds </b>after police arrived on the scene of a playground where he was playing with a toy gun. And Tamir, unfortunately, is just one of many examples.</p><p style="text-align: center;"><b>Racism is real. White Privilege is real. Racial biases are real.</b></p><p>What will it take for us to make you see that?</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-HA8LLSYRYtQ/X0bgR01e4-I/AAAAAAAAkFM/aSsspb5RC7s2YYH77W3Ict4XudNjIHwlQCLcBGAsYHQ/s1439/delete.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="714" data-original-width="1439" height="254" src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-HA8LLSYRYtQ/X0bgR01e4-I/AAAAAAAAkFM/aSsspb5RC7s2YYH77W3Ict4XudNjIHwlQCLcBGAsYHQ/w512-h254/delete.png" width="512" /></a></div><br /><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-68644946533519864442020-07-27T10:55:00.000-05:002020-07-27T11:01:14.445-05:00Pick A Bale Of Cotton<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Sometimes these blog posts just writes themselves. An Arkansas senator named Tom Cotton said that slavery was a "necessary evil". Well, unlike our American History books, to put things into context, he said that, "As the Founding Fathers said, it was the necessary evil on which the union was built."<br />
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This conversation came up during an interview about how slavery should be taught in schools. Cotton wants to cut funding for schools who use curriculum from the "1619 Project".<br />
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You don't have to be a history major to know that a lot of foul stuff was happening to black people in the 1600's. That project was created to help students understand how this country was built on the backs of slaves. It's a painful story to tell, but it does help to enlighten those who know very little about how this country came to be what it is today. In no way, shape, or form is murdering, beating, and raping a group of people a "necessary evil". It's evil, but it's very unnecessary. I don't care in what context you attempt to use it. However, he later said on Twitter that he wasn't endorsing the Founding Fathers stance on slavery. Blah, blah, blah. Cotton also made quotes that insinuated that despite America being a flawed country, it is a great country and he doesn't want it portrayed as being formed by a bunch of greedy, racists crooks.<br />
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And this is a <i>huge </i>problem that I have with American History school books. They are incomplete. They don't tell the real story of how this country came to be. The treatment received by minorities would bring about a ton of shame onto a lot of prominent people. Especially if names were mentioned.<br />
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Case in point, Senator Cotton is a descendant of slave owners. There are documents floating around online now that show a will from his great-great-great-great (I'm unsure of how many "greats") grandfather leaving slaves to an heir. So, I'm guessing that having to explain <i>that </i>part of history is not something he's wanting to get into. In fact, I'm sure that a lot of surnames of prominent people would come up if we did a deep dive into the origin of slave owners. There are a lot of rich people in this country who had wealth passed down to them from those who made it off of the backs of treacherous acts.<br />
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It's ironic that a man with the last name of "Cotton" has a problem with how slavery is taught in schools. History should be no longer "white-washed" to tell "his story". It should be told in its entirety so that people can begin to understand how "The Greatest Country in the World" has a lumpy carpet from the things being swept under the rug.Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2Ridgeland, MS, USA32.4284761 -90.132308732.3212566 -90.2936702 32.5356956 -89.9709472tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-77614340204638146482020-07-16T14:18:00.000-05:002020-07-17T12:59:39.828-05:0010 Years of Blogging<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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Wow. Yesterday was my blog's 10th birthday and I was so busy with <a href="http://www.talk2q.com/" target="_blank">my radio show</a> that I forgot about it!<br />
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It's hard to believe that a simple blurb that I posted on 7/15/10 has led to almost 700 more posts. And I absolutely appreciate all of you for reading them. Even if you only read one.<br />
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And 1.25m views later, I guess that I'm still doing my thing, albeit not nearly as often as it once was. I started my radio show about 7 months after my blog and spent a lot of time building it. It really became my focus around 2013 after the passing of The Mrs. I put all of my spare time into it to help ease the pain of losing her. Plus I'd just lost my mom five months prior. 2012 was rough.<br />
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But thanks to loyal readers supporting me, a radio show audience, and the love of family and friends, I made it through and I've made the most of my life since. I have a job that I love. I have a woman that I love. And I have a family that loves me. You can't ask for much more!<br />
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I'm not sure how long I'll continue to blog. Maybe this is something that I will do until the day I expire. Who knows? I could be 88 years old and on here complaining about something President Malia Obama did (I'm assuming that we will have at least a few female presidents in the next 40 years).<br />
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In the meantime, I'll continue to do my thing here and over at T2Q. I have fun bringing crazy stories and information to the masses and I hope that you all have enjoyed it as well. Thanks for hanging in their with me through 10 years of funny, happy, crazy, informative, and sometimes sad blog posts. I hope that I can fulfill 10 more if possible!<br />
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<tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;">Me today. What a difference 10 years makes, huh?</td></tr>
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<br />Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-20163056454049418272020-07-13T10:51:00.001-05:002020-07-13T10:51:54.387-05:00Combating Social Injustice Issues in America<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I was fortunate enough to be tagged for a discussion about racism along with some very insightful minds. <br />
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<b>You can check out the discussion <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pBA1J_BJ7Iw&fbclid=IwAR0CD3NYR9Eyjcbk6nRp2VlPNYWGxmT50NzunV1kStIoXqaBPuomM6G4eJ0" target="_blank">here</a>.</b><br />
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I participated in the second episode of the <i>Holism For Advancement Roundtable</i> hosted by Dr. Herman SJr. himself.<br />
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I've been fortunate enough to interview him a couple of times on T2Q and as he usually does, he dropped science on this topic as well. His other guest, Miguel Conner, was amazing in establishing a base to some of the societal problems we endure as a country today.<br />
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So, please enjoy this discussion and share, share, share! The world needs to hear more insightful opinions on race and not the same old babble and catch phrases.<br />
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<i><b>Seeing & Combating Inculcated, "Invisible" Fundamentals That Create Negative Systems </b></i><br />
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<i>This is the second show of the Holism For Advancement Roundtable founded by Dr. HermanSJr. to present the most powerful, no-nonsense, science-backed solutions to highly-complex world issues that can be used immediately to begin forcing step-change in people's lives across all landscapes (business, educational, personal, social). </i><br />
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<i>Experts: Dr. Chandra Babu (Ph.D.) | Right.Academy | (not present in show due to technical issues) Miguel Conner (B.A.) | <a href="http://thegodabovegod.com/" target="_blank">TheGodAboveGod.com</a> </i><br />
<i>Quincy "Q" Shelton | <a href="http://talk2q.com/" target="_blank">Talk2Q.com</a> </i><br />
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Why are we fooling ourselves? A majority of people no longer desire to have the spouse, 3 kids, dog, and white picket fence any more. Because society no longer glorifies being married. Sure, we love weddings, but not marriages.<br />
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I'm a 70's baby and I think that my generation is the last who really care about being married. A ton of people my age have either tried it or wanted to, but 1980 and beyond, I'm not so sure.<br />
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<li>You want someone to do happy hour with you every now and then. </li>
<li>You want a plus one to social gatherings. </li>
<li>You want someone to text you "good morning" and "good night". </li>
<li>You want someone make small talk with via text when there's a break at work. </li>
<li>You want someone to contact to fill that intimacy void when you're lonely and in need of something physical.</li>
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But you don't want all of this at the same time. Or sometimes not even with the same person.<br />
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<li>You want to <i>feel </i>like you're in a relationship without actually <i>being </i>in a relationship. </li>
<li> You don't want the commitment. </li>
<li>You don't want the pressure of remembering and shopping for anniversaries and birthdays. </li>
<li>You don't want the difficult conversations that come along with finding long-term compatibility. </li>
<li>You don't want the same person in your face every... single... day. </li>
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How many times have we seen someone post on Facebook about how they've been single for "X" number of years? "Why don't I have someone already?"<br />
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Because you haven't put in the effort. That "everyone is a winner" mentality you learned as a kid is the reason you're sitting around waiting on your participant trophy.<br />
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<li>You don't want to invest in a relationship, but you want to reap all of the benefits. </li>
<li>You don't want to make yourself a better candidate for someone to want you because you work harder on our Match.com profile than you do on your personality. </li>
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So, let's just admit it: you live in the generation that doesn't really want relationships. You want something that is a bit <i>relationship-ish</i>. Luckily for you, there's an app for that!<br />
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