Saturday, October 1, 2011

TQ Presents... @Reckmonster

I generally try to put out three blog posts per week, but from time-to-time, I get caught up with other things: The Mrs., work, football, etc. So, I figured, why not solicit some of my favorite bloggers to take up the slack for me. Yeah, that's right, I can facilitate my blogging duties to others! How lazy wonderful is that?

So, I've asked Michelle to grace my blog with her bold and up front style of blogging! Well, I'm going to let the Reckmonster do her thing. But, before I do so, I want to announce that this is blog post #250! Reck, feel privileged that #250 will be graced with your talents!

"When I Found Out I Wasn't White"

You know what I find abso-fucking-lutely hysterical? I'mma tell you: When people give a disclaimer that they're not prejudiced, but go on to express their disdain for when white girls date black guys, or white guys date asian girls, or so on and so on. Hmmmm, let's dissect this even're not "prejudiced," per se, but you have a problem with when the black bull strays into another farmer's pasture and mounts the white heifer? And even MORE unbelievable??? Is when people say this to ME. ME - the chick who is the product of an interracial marriage. You're gonna pontificate about the evils of the races "mixing" and you're gonna do it to the audience of the crazy "mixed" chick?! I will never understand that. Like I'm going to fucking agree with you or something: "Hell yeah! Let's keep those races separate! All that happens is crazy, mixed up mutts get born and don't fit in anywhere." Or even better - when I actually point out their faux pas (translation: COMPLETE FUCK UP), and their priceless response??? "Well, not YOU - we think of you as 'white!'" My response is not usually well received: "Well, that's mighty fucking white of you!" Can you tell this subject is a little, hmmm, "charged" for me?! Yeah. Just a lil. You want to know why? Let me share...

People wonder all of the time what "flavor" I am. I get asked, "Where are you from?" all of the time. When I answer, "Michigan," they roll their eyes and say, "No REALLY, like where are you REALLY from?" And if the scruff on the back of my neck starts to stand - because they're being real douches about it, I say, "I REALLY AM from Michigan. I was born there. But if you're curious about my parental ancestry or my ethnicity, then you should ask me that." If they're honestly curious (and - bless their hearts - truly clueless about how to tactfully ask), I usually answer with, "Well, My dad's family is from Michigan, and I was born there too - but my mom's family is from the Philippines. So I'm Heinz 57." That usually satisfies people enough because they nod knowingly and say, "OOOOH! O-kayyyyy."

The real truth is that my mother is Filipino, my father is a mish-mash of Chippewa Indian (yes, we are card carrying members of the Sault Tribe of Chippewa Indians) and whatever "whiteness" was hanging out up there in Michigan - maybe French Canadian, but who knows? My parents have always referred to me as a "mestiza" (which is a Filipino word meaning "mixed"). And since I grew up in an Army family - most of my friends were "mixed" bags too. My best friend in High School was half Black and half Thai. Then there was the beautiful girl a year ahead of me who was half Puerto Rican and half Korean. You get the idea.

Fast forward to sixth grade: My dad gets us stationed in Louisiana. We had just come from Korea. Now, Louisiana was probably the biggest culture shock in the world to me. And we lived in this po-dunk town that was a good 20+ miles from the Army post, so they were much more removed from all of that "mixing" that occurs in the military. I encountered my first real bouts of experiencing "racism" there.

Being the child prodigy that I was (snicker snicker), I was slated to be interviewed for the Beauregard Parish School System's Talented and Gifted program ("TAG") - accelerated classes for the smarty pants nerd kids (and yeah, I got in and was in the TAG program the whole time we were stationed in LA - until we moved to Germany in the middle of my Freshman year of HS). Now, in order to get me signed up for the interview, my homeroom teacher had to fill out some basic info on the application. She asked for my date of birth, place of birth, yada, yada, yada. Then, the conversation got interesting:

Teacher: Race?
Me: White.
Teacher: Are you sure? [accompanied by double-take surprised look]
Me: Yes. [accompanied by, "Are you retarded?" look]
Teacher: Well, you're not Black, right?
Me: No.
Teacher: Are you Mexican?
Me: No.
Teacher: Are you sure you're White?
Me: [exasperated by this point] Yes! My dad is White. And my mom is Filipino, but she's an American citizen now, so she's White too. [ be that naive again...]
Teacher: Well, okay, then I guess we'll mark White. (and she proceeds to reluctantly mark the "White" box on the "Race" portion of the questionnaire)
Me: Mkay.

So, what is a 12 year old supposed to do now? I get home and immediately start grilling my momster.

Me: MOM! What am I?
Momster: What are you talking about?
Me: Am I WHITE?!!!
Momster: You're a mestiza.
Me: Yeah, but does that mean I'm White?!
Momster: Well, you're a mestiza...
Me (annoyed, impatient and traumatized at this point): BUT THERE'S NOT A BOX FOR MESTIZA!!!
Momster: Well, you can be whatever you want to be.
Me: MOM! I need to KNOW what box to mark!!!

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is when I found out that I was NOT White. 12 years a "White" lie - because nobody bothered to tell me BEFORE we moved to KKK-ville that I was NOT White. Thus began my campaign to fuck with those silly "race" boxes every opportunity I get. Sometimes I mark "Asian/Pacific Islander" and sometimes I mark "Other." Sometimes I mark "all that apply" and check off all kinds of boxes. And sometimes (since I got my Chippewa Indian card) I mark "Native American." I like to make sure that I mark as many DIFFERENT racial representations of myself to all of the different jackasses that feel like they need to know. I think I even mark a different race every time the census comes out. HAH! Take that!! [insert Bronx Cheer here] But...I NEVER mark "White" - because I now KNOW that I'm NOT.


  1. Great guest post. And she has a new follower. Thanks for introducing us

  2. Reck. Ah, my sexy un-white baby. I wondered what's been keeping you out of sight. Great post and terrific points.

    What I can't figure is whatthefuck is white? I don't know what white really is. Matter of fact, I don't really know what any color means in a racial context.

    One of the pastiest white skinned guys I know has a black mother, and his ebony-skinned sister share's their white daddy.

    Maybe the lesson you're preaching is why do we need those fucking boxes? Why should it matter?

    FUCK RICK PERRY and make plans for my visit to Tennessee sometime in early November.

    (PS to TQ. I would like to make a pass through your neighborhood when I come)

  3. You can be whatever you want to be.

    Really ma? Ok. I'm a fucking unicorn now. WHEEEE!!!

    I enjoyed the 'what flavor are you' part. I haven't dated around with a wide variety of races to know if different colors taste like different flavors, but MAN it's fun to think about!

    Makes me regret living a 'vanilla only' lifestyle to this point. I wanna date a thai girl now to see if she tastes like curry!

    A little racist? Probably. But I giggled. And people should know enough about me by now to know I don't mean anything in a belittling way.

    Great post!

  4. Great post. I can't imagine the trials of being young and mixed in the south. *cringe* I remember my cousin coming home confused from Kindergarten and asking his mother if he was black. She explained to him, again, that he was not but that he was Guatemalan and had been adopted with love by his father and her. I'm sure growing up in an all white family posed it's problems for him but frequent trips to Guatemala to volunteer building houses, etc. helped I think. Anyway...not the point...

    Way to stick it to the race box!!

  5. Whoo! Hoo! I'm your 250th post!! I feel honored, Q!!
    @ Mynx - welcome aboard, my new friend! Please fasten your seat belt, the ride gets crazy sometimes. lol

    @ Mooner - I'm all prepped for the Mooner Johnson 2011 my tickets for front row and everything! Don't forget my autographed book, bitch.

    @ Idahomie - I laughed so hard at the "Unicorn" comment...and I would TOTALLY mark a unicorn box if there ever was one! And racist?! That's like accusing me of being "dainty."

    @ Jewels - oh yes, even being "older" in the south is still a treat! I swear, if I am not mindful of where I stop in for gas down here in "tha durty south" - I end up having to give people the look that says, "Yes, bitches! This IS my car, and I DIDN'T steal it!" lol

  6. You all are too much!

    @ Mynx - You will definitely enjoy Reckmonster. Her posts are straight from the heart and they're entertaining.

    @ Mooner - You're taking a tour of the Southeast?

    @ LiI - I don't know if it was the unicorn statement or the WHEEEE that made me shart.

    @ Jewels - Luckily, the South has relaxed a tad bit in the major cities, but they're still some hick towns that frown upon the "non-pure."

    @ Reck - Way to rock #250 for me!

  7. How 'bout this for the 'racial' profiling question from now on out for us all?

    "Earthling, mother fucker, deal with it!"

    Mooner, on the other hand, might have to be more specific, 'cause we're not sure 'earthling' quite covers it...

    Q, you chose well for your guest post. Murfreesboro's proud of our Reckem, and it's cool of you to ask her to contribute!

  8. I caught that Bless Their Heart comment. That's Southern for You Dumb Shit. But I can truthfully say I am not prejudiced. I hate every fucking body. 'sept you! I love you cus you help our vets.

  9. @ Squatlo - "Earthling." I like it. I think most of us qualify for that. Wait. But, then again, maybe that's why some people are called "aliens." And speaking of contributions, what about you and Mooner doing the show with me to talk Rick Perry and the GOP?

    @ Coffeypot - LOL! That's exactly what "bless your heart" means! LOL!

  10. Q, I'm afraid I'm not quite ready for prime time on the blog show. Mooner would be the resident Prick Perry expert, not me. I can't believe we're even talking about the douche, personally.

  11. @ Squatlo - I'm far from an expert, but I have opinions. That's the only show requirement. :)


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