There is nothing more pathetic than a dude who won't take care of his child(ren). Wait. I take that back. There is something more pathetic: a guy who won't take care of his child(ren) and then goes out and gets someone else pregnant. Notice that I've yet to use the term "man." That's not an accident.
Now, I've heard horror stories of females using the child as a pawn in an emotional game with some guys. But, those stories are few and far between. A lot of guys want to act like that's the norm, but I'm old enough to know better. There are very few women who wouldn't want their child to see their father. Very few! And even if she doesn't, then that's what the courts are for. It may be difficult to get sole custody of a child, but it's usually not difficult to get visitation. There aren't too many courts that would discourage a man visiting his child every other weekend.
Are there some bad chicks out there who play games with the child? Of course. But, that doesn't excuse a guy to stoop down to her level at the expense of the child. Regardless of how much you hate her, handle your business. Your kid needs your money and your time. Even if she's constantly telling your kid that you're no good, your actions will make her into a liar every single time if you do the right thing. At some point, that child will grow old enough to see the real deal.
Some guy recently made the news for not being able to pay child support on 22 kids by 14 different women. First of all, I'm pretty sure that a majority of these women knew that this guy had more kids than an orphanage when they laid down with him. So, I don't feel completely sorry for them, but the children didn't ask to be born into a family full of idiots. Mandatory vasectomies will never be legal here in the U.S., but if they were, then this is the perfect case for it. I would have snipped this dude at six kids.
If you are a guy and you're not paying your child support, then you are a loser. I understand that there's an exception to every rule, but 99% of you are losers!
And the celebrities and athletes who cry about the ridiculous amounts of child support that they have to pay can cry me a river. Boo-freakin'-hoo! Although I agree that it's ridiculous to hit someone up for $10,000+ month in child support, these celebs/athletes know the deal. It's not like they're hearing for the first time that child support for famous guys costs a huge amount. But they love to cry "foul" when they go out and have five babies by six women. Read that last sentence again and shake your head. There are way too many examples of guys paying ridiculous amounts of money for someone to act "brand new" when they get taken to court for five digit child support amounts. Wrap up and keep your cash to yourself.
Idiots. Oh, by the way... Happy Father's Day!
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