Stuck on Repeat

Scroll through your social media feed and take a closer look. How many of your friends are living the exact same lives they were when you first joined?

Think about it:

• They’re still single.

• They’re still “working on themselves.”

• They’re still posting motivational quotes.

• They’re still complaining about their job.

• They’re still bitter about their ex.

• They’re still… miserable.

It’s like watching a loop. Different year. Same problems. Same posts.

The truth is, social media makes it easy to create an illusion of progress. A quote here, a “new chapter” caption there. It looks like growth, but behind the screen, nothing has really changed.

Why does this happen? Change is uncomfortable, and staying the same is easy. Or a post gets likes, and that little hit of approval feels like progress. And sometimes it’s safer to keep saying “I’m working on myself” than to risk trying something new and failing.

But here’s the thing: years pass, and nothing shifts unless you do. Self-work without action is just procrastination dressed up in positivity.

So the next time you scroll and notice the same old posts, ask yourself—am I stuck too?

Because the only thing worse than watching someone else stay the same… is realizing you’ve been doing it too.

That's something that I've had to deal with when it comes to weight loss. I don't post on social media about it, but year-after-year, I'm stuck in the same place.

So know that this post isn't about judgment on others for their struggles because we all struggle with something. But sometimes it takes something grabbing your attention to realize that things are stagnant and that we want to be in a different and better place a year from now.

Is There Racism in Politics and the Laws They Create?

Let’s stop pretending for a moment. Politics is not neutral. Laws are not neutral. They are written, voted on, and enforced by people. And people bring their biases into everything they do. If a society is built on racist assumptions, then the politics and the laws of that society will reflect those same assumptions. 

If you doubt that, look at the record. Slavery was legal. Jim Crow was legal. Redlining was legal. School segregation, immigration bans based on race — all legal until someone had the courage to challenge them. The question isn’t whether racism exists in politics. The real question is: how could it not? 

Racism in lawmaking didn’t end in the 1960s. Today, we see voting restrictions that disproportionately target communities of color. We see sentencing disparities where a Black person and a white person can commit the same crime and face very different punishments. We see immigration policies that treat certain groups as more “deserving” than others. These aren’t accidents. They’re choices. And those choices protect power — usually the power of wealthy, white, and male elites. 

Politics is the art of protecting the interests of those in charge. If you’ve always had the money, the land, the education, and the connections, laws will be written to keep things that way. That’s why racism is baked into the system: it’s profitable for those who benefit from it. 

Now, I want to be clear. This post focuses on race. That means I'm currently putting less attention on other forces at play — like class, gender, or economics. And I admit, my examples are U.S.-centric, because that’s where I’ve spent my life. Other countries deal with different histories, like colonialism, caste, or religious discrimination. But the pattern is the same: systems of power protect themselves by creating laws that divide people. 

Here's another way of looking at it: if you asked a political scientist instead of me, they’d give you charts and graphs. They’d talk about voter suppression, gerrymandering, or incarceration rates. They’d say racism exists in politics because of historical legacies, blah, blah, blah — not because every lawmaker is a bigot. They’d give you data. I give you the blunt truth. Besides, you don't have to be a racist per se to create a law that negatively impacts a race of people. Sometimes greed is the simple origin of racist laws and not bigotry. "Staying in power" is the goal for a lot of politicians and if that means a few people of color suffer, then so be it.

Yes, there is racism in politics and in the laws they create. Always has been. And unless we face it, challenge it, and rewrite it deliberately, it always will be. The next time you hear someone say, “Well, the law is the law,” remember: so was slavery. So was segregation. The law doesn’t define morality — it reflects who has the power to make the rules.

👉 What do you think: are today’s laws still protecting power at the expense of justice?

Why Women Think They Can Change His Mind but Not His Wardrobe

There’s an interesting dynamic in dating that often gets overlooked: it’s usually easier to change a man’s style than his personality. Yet, when it comes to relationships, many women tend to invest their energy in the opposite direction.

Think about it. A man who’s “sweet but swagless” often gets overlooked because his presentation doesn’t match the confidence and energy women are drawn to. He might be respectful, loyal, and genuinely kind—but if his sneakers are outdated, his jeans fit like a 2005 throwback, or he just hasn’t found his style, he gets labeled as “dorky” or “boring.”

On the other hand, the man with the swagger—the one whose clothes, haircut, and presence scream confidence—often gets all the attention. He may be inconsistent, disloyal, or openly a cheater, but women will convince themselves that they can fix his mentality. They’ll buy into the project of “changing” his ways, believing their love, patience, or loyalty will reform him.

But here’s the irony: it’s infinitely harder to rewire someone’s character than to upgrade their closet.

• Wardrobe is surface-level. A haircut, new clothes, and some guidance can completely reinvent a man’s appearance and confidence within weeks.

• Personality is rooted. A cheater’s behavior patterns are tied to deeper values, habits, and choices. Trying to reform that is a long shot, and often ends in heartbreak.

The overlooked truth is that women who dismiss “sweet guys with no swag” are passing up on someone who already has the qualities that matter most in a long-term partner. Instead of trying to turn a cheater into a faithful man, why not turn a loyal “dork” into a stylish, confident version of himself?

At the end of the day, you can take a man shopping and transform his look overnight—but changing his mindset? That’s not just harder. For most, it’s impossible.