Sunday, April 9, 2017
Learn The Difference Between "Respectful" and "Fake"
At one time in society, people used to be aware of their audience before they spoke. They chose their words wisely because they cared about their reputation and they didn't want to offend certain groups. Men would not curse if women or kids around. Now women curse just as much as men do now. Kids do a healthy share of cursing, too.
I discussed that recently to someone (not a Millenial) who responded to me by saying "people who hold their tongues are 'fake'".
Yes, that's right. People who choose their words around others are "fake" in her eyes. She explained how everyone in her family curses freely around one another. It doesn't matter the age, if you are in the room, then you may hear a curse word. Just deal with it. Not speaking freely is being fake? That was the craziest thing I'd ever heard. Why is showing restraint a bad thing?
Don't get me wrong. What a person does in their home is their business. But, some people do it no matter where they are. At the grocery store, at restaurants, in other people's homes.
There's a time and a place for everything. You don't drop f-bombs in your boss's office. Why?
Because it's considered as being disrespectful in the workplace. No one unleashes curse words when speaking to the preacher at church. Why? Because it's a sign of disrespect. Or in her eyes, it's being fake, I guess.
So, why do people look at you sideways when you ask them not to curse in public? Is it that hard not to curse?
We keep making excuses for doing what we want to do. At some point in society, there will be no rules or standards.