Someone once told me that "certain people are placed in your world to get you to a certain place in life." I'm a firm believer of that statement. I think that it is sage advice and that is very true.
I felt that way after losing The Mrs. to breast cancer last year. Although she is no longer with me, I am in a better place as a person because of the time I had with her. I didn't realize how much that I learned from her until I had to use it on my own.
We go through life expecting the people that we love to always be there each morning we awake. We wake up thinking that today will be pretty much like yesterday, but that's not always the case. Things change. Our loved one could move on to another phase in life like an out of town job. Maybe a change in lifestyle or a work schedule means that you're unable to see each other as much or at all. Or maybe, God forbid, they pass away.
No one wants their "cheese moved," but the one constant in all of our lives is change.
You don't know what to do.
You don't know what to say.
You don't know where to go.
However, it's how you adapt to change that defines you as a person. You can let it negatively affect you which may lead to your life spiraling out of control. Things start to have a domino effect on you and before you know it, an unfortunate situation has turned into multiple unfortunate situations.
Or you can meet the change head-on, face your fears, and go on with your life. You realize that whatever you once had was just a piece of the puzzle in what you call "your life." It was a part of your life that somehow makes you a better person, regardless if you realize it or not. Also, aside from the person dying, whatever happened doesn't mean that person is gone from your life forever. Just like the double helix pictured below, maybe your paths will cross again.