What Happened to Being Sweet?

That's funny. Women born before 1975 appeared to do it easily.

I'm as old school as they come which means there's a huge disconnect between me and a lot of folks.  Because of that, people younger than me tend to not understand why I shake my head at some of the things going on in today's society.  Especially when it comes to how men and women interact.

I had a gap in dating from 2002-2012 during the time that I was married to my late wife.  Unfortunately, when I got thrust back into the dating world, I had no idea how much things had changed.  What a difference a decade makes!

Right before I first started dating my late wife in 1998, there were two or three other women who had my interest.  All of them brought something different to the table, but the main quality all of them had is that they were sweet.  Not just to me, but to everyone around them.  They knew how to treat me (encouraging).  They knew how to treat their elders (respectful).  They knew how to treat children (nurturing).

Those days are gone.

Fast forward to 2015 and things have changed quite a bit.  Many women try to put guys in "their place."  Many women have no idea how to conduct themselves around their elders without being offensive.  Many women will curse around or even at their kids.  So many women don't carry themselves like ladies.

Because in 2015, it's been put in our heads that none of that stuff matters.  It's okay to do whatever you want and those who don't understand it, forget them!  They don't pay your bills so who cares what they think, right?

One of the main things that made me smile when thinking about a woman is no more.  Sweetness is gone.  Women now are just as hard if not harder than men and it's quite an adjustment.  The sweet, nurturing, inspirational ladies that once made me feel 10 feet tall are rarer than ever these days.  To some women, to be sweet is to be weak.  If she's too kind to a man then he may use it as leverage in the relationship.  Can't have a guy thinking that you actually like him, right?

A man is supposed to be a visionary, leader, teacher, cultivator, provider, and protector.  All six of those things come to us naturally, but society teaches us how to suppress them.  The same applies to women.  Social media and TV encourages women to not worry about their reputation.

Look at that photo of Nicki Minaj and read her quote again.  She thinks that being "super-sweet," "sexy", or "nice" is hard?

SMH.


This ad has nothing to do with this post other than the word "sweet," but it's a hilarious ad to me.