Thank, Q!
Some things just need to be said.
Wednesday, September 17, 2025
Is There Racism in Politics and the Laws They Create?
Saturday, September 6, 2025
Why Women Think They Can Change His Mind but Not His Wardrobe
Think about it. A man who’s “sweet but swagless” often gets overlooked because his presentation doesn’t match the confidence and energy women are drawn to. He might be respectful, loyal, and genuinely kind—but if his sneakers are outdated, his jeans fit like a 2005 throwback, or he just hasn’t found his style, he gets labeled as “dorky” or “boring.”
On the other hand, the man with the swagger—the one whose clothes, haircut, and presence scream confidence—often gets all the attention. He may be inconsistent, disloyal, or openly a cheater, but women will convince themselves that they can fix his mentality. They’ll buy into the project of “changing” his ways, believing their love, patience, or loyalty will reform him.
But here’s the irony: it’s infinitely harder to rewire someone’s character than to upgrade their closet.
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Wardrobe is surface-level. A haircut, new clothes, and some guidance can completely reinvent a man’s appearance and confidence within weeks.
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Personality is rooted. A cheater’s behavior patterns are tied to deeper values, habits, and choices. Trying to reform that is a long shot, and often ends in heartbreak.
The overlooked truth is that women who dismiss “sweet guys with no swag” are passing up on someone who already has the qualities that matter most in a long-term partner. Instead of trying to turn a cheater into a faithful man, why not turn a loyal “dork” into a stylish, confident version of himself?
At the end of the day, you can take a man shopping and transform his look overnight—but changing his mindset? That’s not just harder. For most, it’s impossible.
Saturday, July 15, 2023
Thank God for Growth!
I started this blog over a decade ago. Every now and then, I'll go back and read some of my older posts just. Sometimes I find myself laughing at loud at a story that I barely remember today. Other times, I smack myself in the head and say, "What were you thinking?".
So many things that I believed years ago I don't believe now. And even if I do believe in them, I now have a different approach to it.
I've always tried to take an old school approach when it came to solving problems in society. I still believe that approach can work more times than not. But some of the things I said in previous posts were harsh and therefore rendered ineffective because I was trying to enforce an old school approach in a new school society. That tends to make things worse.
Thankfully, I now understand that finger-pointing is no longer the way to instill accountability. Even if it's true, it doesn't make it helpful to people to get it thrown in their faces. I've learned to take a different approach to things. As much as I hate sugar-coating the truth, it's simply something we have to do in today's fragile society. And I can't take back anything I posted years ago, but I can atone for them with a changed approach.
It's amazing how a person's mindset can change simply by continuing to live. Of course, it takes an open mind, but it can be done if people allow it to happen. I'm glad that it happened to me. 13 years later this blog still exists and it continues to show the progress I've made as an individual.
Thank God for growth and Happy 13th birthday to my blog. I have a teen-ager now.