Somewhere between “you do you” and “I owe you nothing,” accountability died.
That’s right — we’ve managed to turn relationships into self-service stations. People walk in, take what they want emotionally, physically, or even financially, and walk out without so much as a “thank you” or “my bad.” And the wild part? Society cheers it on. We’ve convinced ourselves that “protecting our peace” gives us a free pass to treat others like disposable accessories.
We glorify independence so much that loyalty and responsibility have become optional. Everybody wants the benefits of commitment with none of the obligations. Folks want the title without the work, the intimacy without the vulnerability, and the attention without the accountability.
But here’s the thing: relationships don’t usually crumble because of incompatibility — they collapse because of inconsistency.
One day it’s “good morning, beautiful,” and the next it’s “I’ve been busy.” One week it’s deep conversations about the future; the next it’s unread messages and ghosting. People don’t get tired of love — they get tired of confusion.
If you say you want something real, you can’t keep operating like everything’s temporary. Real relationships require showing up even when it’s not convenient. That’s what separates adults from people just playing dress-up in grown-up bodies.
Good decision-making isn’t about doing what feels right in the moment — it’s about choosing what aligns with your values when it’s inconvenient. That’s called character, and it’s the rarest currency in the modern dating economy.
Don’t confuse freedom with selfishness. Freedom means you can choose — but it doesn’t mean your choices don’t have consequences. The strongest people aren’t the ones who move on the fastest; they’re the ones who stay consistent even when no one’s watching.
Accountability isn’t control — it’s commitment. And maybe, just maybe, if we brought that back into dating, love wouldn’t feel like a game we’re all pretending not to care about.
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