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Showing posts with label sexting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexting. Show all posts

Friday, October 18, 2013

The Power of the Internet #Privacy #Regret

Being someone who is constantly watching educational shows and listening to technology podcasts, I understand the Internet extremely well.  I can find almost anything on anyone on the web by simply understanding how to search for it.

What is so concerning is that young people don't understand that what they put on the Web stays on the Web.  Whether it's on the Internet or the Deep Web, it's out there never to truly vanish.  A photo or a comment that someone only wants to direct to a small group could be accessed by the public at any given moment and we forget that.

I remember when I was extremely active on Facebook.  I would argue politics, relationships, and other topics ad nauseam with my Friends not knowing it could come back to bite me some day.  I didn't want to lose out on a job because of something that I said on a social network.  People don't believe that companies search social media accounts of candidates, but I have a relative who did that on her job before she recently retired.  So, it's very real and she's told me some horror stories about it.

Although I knew better, like most people, I said that "it would never happen to me."  I had to ditch that attitude and I did.  I realized that I was getting caught up in the moment so I stopped.  I completely changed my ways.  I'm very selective with my online comments now because I'm refocused on the fact that people are watching.  It doesn't mean that I don't speak my mind because some things need to be said.  But, it does mean that I'm not "out there with it."

You'll never see me post provocative photos of myself, use curse words, or publicly humiliate someone on social media.  But, a lot of people under 30 years old don't seem to understand that and it's up to people who know better to teach them.

The YOLO generation views the internet as a place of conversation and not a place of "evidence."  That's why so many idiots have been convicted of crimes based on things they posted online.  That's why so many relationships have ended because someone was stupid enough to put something incriminating in print.  That's why so many lives are ruined because someone thought that a sex pic sent to a crush wouldn't wind up in a Google search.

So, my message to everyone out there who reads my blog: talk to the young loved ones in your life.  I don't mean in a passing conversation.  I mean to sit down and have a serious discussion about how anything they put online or even in a text message is subjected to public scrutiny.  It may actually save someone from future heartache.  Times are hard enough for the younger generation to find their way through life.  The last thing they need is something they did/said hanging over their heads.

Don't get it twisted, young people... The Internet can break you.

How do you prevent people from using social media as self-esteem booster or electronic therapist?

Sunday, September 25, 2011

TQ Presents... @Ida_homie

It's vacation time in the Q household.  The Mrs. has a birthday coming up this weekend, so I've decided to put my posting duties down and spend some extra time with her this week.  I generally try to put out three blog posts per week, but from time-to-time, I get caught up with other things: The Mrs., work, football, etc. So, I figured, why not solicit some of my favorite bloggers to take up the slack for me. Yeah, that's right, I can facilitate my blogging duties to others! How lazy wonderful is that?

So, I've asked Brandon from My Own Private Idaho to grace my blog with his wit! If you're unfamiliar with Mr. Lost in Idaho, he's been in the blogging game for less than a year, but has managed to attract more followers than a Kardashian. Mainly because of the number of topics he discusses along with the Tosh.0-esque humor that goes with it. Well, I'll let him do his thing...

"Sexting 101"

As you know, smartphones and hi-res cameraphones are making it easier and easier to share tawdry photos with one another. (Example: Scarlett Johansson’s recent headlines) We, as a society, have gone from phone sex to text-message sex to sexting (sending nude pictures to each other) all in the course of a few years.

But this isn’t news to you. You’ve probably done it. I have. It’s fun, sexy, and (when done right) a great way to spice things up.

What I would like to help with, however, is making sure you don’t look like an idiot doing it. Guys, this post is for you, to help you sext with the best of them.

Now, the female form is a beautiful thing, and translates well into pictures. They have a lot of features that are sexy: Legs, butt, breasts, etc. A woman can take a picture of any part, at any angle and make it look insanely hot.

Guys don’t have a lot going for them. I’m an overweight guy, so taking a picture of my beer belly or man boobs is going to scare a woman away.  I have one part that looks sexy, and only one.

I’ll give you a hint… if you ask TOAR, it looks like raw chicken

Yes, the man muscle. The disco stick, the pocket rocket, the one-eyed wonder weasel. Whatever you’ve named yours, it is your greatest asset in the sexting game. And if you can take the right picture, you can impress your friend on the receiving end, to make her *on* the receiving end.

A word of warning: 4 pictures out of 5 will look unflattering. You know the saying “Objects in mirror may seem smaller?” Yeah. Like that.


She doesn’t look impressed, does she?



Yeah, she definitely isn’t impressed…


Learn the art of angles. Learn to take up the entire screen. Try to make it seem powerful. Intimidating. Something your text-mate would actually desire.

I’m 5’10”. My trouser-tackle is one-tenth of the size of the rest of me, and even smaller when asleep. (I’m a grower, not a shower…) Add a gut to the mix, and I could come across as looking like I’m packing a tater-tot, or hung like a Crayola. If I’m sexting a girl, trying to woo her into bed, she isn’t going to be turned on if it looks like she’s not going to be able to feel a thing…

Long story short, use trial and error.  If you have a female friend with an objective opinion, ask for feedback. Or, when in doubt, watch this video from Saturday Night Live:



Next guest post... TOAR. Be afraid. Be very afraid.

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