tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post2622647006932805423..comments2024-03-09T07:26:22.302-06:00Comments on Thank, Q!: Can A Mate Veto Your Outfit?Qhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-83937500360895633762014-05-05T06:24:22.459-05:002014-05-05T06:24:22.459-05:00Thanks for commenting, Heather! I guess it's ...Thanks for commenting, Heather! I guess it's more comforting to be in a situation to ask for "more skin" instead of "less skin" for most men. But, you're right when you say that there is a time and place for certain outfits. Unfortunately, most people don't know the time or the place. No one wants to show up with their spouse at a family reunion and they look like a stripper or a pimp.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-30929654600355326042014-05-04T17:17:59.342-05:002014-05-04T17:17:59.342-05:00First let me say thanks for linking up on my Frida...First let me say thanks for linking up on my Friday Blog Hop! Second....my situation is totally the opposite! lol My significant would LOVE it if I would dress with a little more skin showing! It would take ALOT for him to try to veto my "mom appropriate" attire! ;) I definitely agree though that there is a time and place for some outfits!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03069028067677468978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-26496200095917636222013-10-31T18:34:07.495-05:002013-10-31T18:34:07.495-05:00Thanks, SDD! It should definitely be a two-way st...Thanks, SDD! It should definitely be a two-way street!Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-76112437919969335862013-10-31T18:33:26.634-05:002013-10-31T18:33:26.634-05:00That's true. It's all about compatibility...That's true. It's all about compatibility. Even if she wanted to wear the dress, it wouldn't have made her wrong. It would have just meant that she needed a guy who would appreciate it more. A guy who may not mind confronting the onlookers. Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-64193137920035014362013-10-31T13:06:44.766-05:002013-10-31T13:06:44.766-05:00I think that out of respect for your partner you s...I think that out of respect for your partner you should be able to veto each other's outfits if they aren't appropriate. As long as feedback is given respectfully and reasons given it's no big deal. Great question!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-12460422986939385502013-10-31T12:51:58.151-05:002013-10-31T12:51:58.151-05:00Here's the deal. I think it's important to...Here's the deal. I think it's important to be honest with your partner...BUT...you have to be prepared for consequences {ie. hurt feelings, anger, resentment}. No sense in keeping your mouth shut only to brood and be snippy all night, leaving her to wonder "why the attitude". Simply put, my mates opinion has value with me {otherwise I wouldn't be with him} and if he felt strongly about something I was wearing I would want him to tell me. Sh*t who am I kidding? He loves it when I dress sexy...he wants me to dress sexier more often! This is why we work as a couple. The Dress Test may have been a dis-qualifier for her or you. A sign of not being compatible. Marriehttp://www.dirtyinpublic.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-14220948745363198702012-06-28T17:16:32.758-05:002012-06-28T17:16:32.758-05:00Hey, that's what friends are for, Sweety Darli...Hey, that's what friends are for, Sweety Darlin. They should always regulate what the other wears so that there's no unwanted attention. As for your man, I think that a different approach has to be made. It should always start with a compliment. "Honey, you're hot in that dress, however..."Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-24445412398737873912012-06-28T14:53:24.519-05:002012-06-28T14:53:24.519-05:00My significant other sometimes says things are not...My significant other sometimes says things are not flattering, and I wear them anyway and usually get complements. There are some that he loves that other hate. It really matters if I am comfortable, but my days of sexy dance floor hotness are past for now, and I don't typically dress in any manner that would result in unwanted attention. <br /><br />However back in the day even if I covered up more I still felt like I got attention. Of course I never went to clubs with my men, only alone or with the girls. Of course if I was a hot mess my friends are the first to tell me so.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07746065877021279335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-22431195127809203092012-06-27T00:18:43.765-05:002012-06-27T00:18:43.765-05:00I understand that totally. Some things should be ...I understand that totally. Some things should be for "members only."Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-25259151655975445162012-06-26T20:15:56.144-05:002012-06-26T20:15:56.144-05:00hahaha. I don't think any man has ever said, &...hahaha. I don't think any man has ever said, "here, kitty, kitty" to me until you just now. I've been called Kitten though. lol. And no, no catsuits. I'm all for looking sexy but not overtly and if so not outside the bedroom or my man's house. I like to keep those looks private.AccordingtoJewelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14677233524380245752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-23179453911246144082012-06-26T19:45:25.101-05:002012-06-26T19:45:25.101-05:00I'd hope so. I would't want to go to the ...I'd hope so. I would't want to go to the mall dressed like Dolemite and The Mrs. not tell me.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-67786823698950595872012-06-26T16:10:06.944-05:002012-06-26T16:10:06.944-05:00It's okay to give your significant other the h...It's okay to give your significant other the heads-up if their wardrobe is putting them in a compromising situation. You'd want them to do it for you, right?Vinny Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10097265589198549734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-43104594410753917832012-06-26T14:47:45.132-05:002012-06-26T14:47:45.132-05:00LOL! Yeah, I'm sure the story would have been...LOL! Yeah, I'm sure the story would have been completely different. It may have involved assault, running and a 911 call had I told her that.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-59148491909893690982012-06-26T14:43:46.590-05:002012-06-26T14:43:46.590-05:00Thanks, Jewels, you little Dirty Stay Out, you! L...Thanks, Jewels, you little Dirty Stay Out, you! LOL! But, c'mon, you've never donned a cat suit? No, "here, kitty, kitty" for Jewels?Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-16375178771772996562012-06-26T14:38:55.200-05:002012-06-26T14:38:55.200-05:00Thanks for stopping in, Brittany! I'm with yo...Thanks for stopping in, Brittany! I'm with you. I'd rather be honest than uncomfortable any day of the week.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-91989912837060460582012-06-26T07:51:18.732-05:002012-06-26T07:51:18.732-05:00I don't think telling a girl that she looks TO...I don't think telling a girl that she looks TOO SEXY will ever truly backfire. If you had told her she looked like a total whore, that would have been a whole other story no doubt.Kev D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13557162668726460610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-36092653508430997082012-06-26T07:37:14.766-05:002012-06-26T07:37:14.766-05:00Hey, Nessy! I think the approach is the key. It ...Hey, Nessy! I think the approach is the key. It makes it a lot more stressful to say, "Oh, you're NOT wearing that" as opposed to just giving an opinion. It also is important to choose a mate wisely and to understand that if they were wearing those types of outfit when you met, then things won't change if you date.<br /><br />Thanks for chiming in!Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371841750506260427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-86409237119652493722012-06-26T06:30:45.020-05:002012-06-26T06:30:45.020-05:00If I'd listen to a best friend tell me I looke...If I'd listen to a best friend tell me I looked ridiculous in an outfit why not a guy? I don't think I'd be happy about it if they said, "You look like a damned slut and I'm not going out with you dressed like that" so I do think it's all about approach and tone. Yours was pretty perfect. Simply explain your concerns and request to see it later in private. Who can be upset when they are told they look TOO smoking hot and that you want that outfit all to yourself? ;) <br /><br />Well, okay, some women may be. I personally wouldn't have a problem with it though. That may be because I don't go "clubbing" and wouldn't be caught in public in a cat suit though. Another great one, Q.AccordingtoJewelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14677233524380245752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-77362837386149582862012-06-26T01:06:47.993-05:002012-06-26T01:06:47.993-05:00Fair!! I'd rather be honest, than uncomfortabl...Fair!! I'd rather be honest, than uncomfortable or annoyed all night because my mate decided to dress inappropriately! Besides, if you are with someone you should be able to share how you feel in a way that is not offensive and together come to a conclusion. This doesn't mean your mate will always agree...but you can't go wrong with honesty and open communication, especially if it is sincere!! <br /><br />~BrittanyUrDreamPlannerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08932220819484863293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1726120322588904573.post-24702800453826936142012-06-26T01:02:27.752-05:002012-06-26T01:02:27.752-05:00I think you can explain how you are uncomfortable ...I think you can explain how you are uncomfortable but in the end it is YOUR insecurity and that should be address. The other party is an ADULT and should not be told what to wear. That is incorrect even if what the other person is wearing is inappropriate they should be respected and not treated as a child. You should say "I feel...blah blah blah" and leave the option open for the other person to change. This will avoid a future problem or situation of "you always make me do what YOU want me to do". You always allow free will in a relationship do not treat them as your child. -nessywritesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com